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Being told I should be mourning

To start off, this is about the death of Gord Downey. I first of all want to say that if I knew his family and close friends, I would extend my sympathies. I’m sure he was a great man who died much too young of a horrible disease.

HOWEVER I did not know him personally. I never met him. I was not a fan of his music. Yet, because I am born and raised Canadian, I’m being told I’m unpatriotic for not loving his music and for not mourning his loss. Why? Everyone has different tastes. I admire his accomplishments as a musician and songwriter, but that doesn’t mean I have to like the music. I greatly mourned the loss of artists and performers that I did like and admire, but I should not be told I’m heartless or unpatriotic for not liking this artist’s music or for not being devastated by his death. I didn’t know the man.

I also am VERY tired of all of the Tragically Hip being played on EVERY radio station in the city. I get it. He was a very prominent Canadian, but I’ve not seen the same ‘tribute’ for other Canadian artists who have died. When Kenny Shields died, no one played Streetheart for hours on end. When Leonard Cohen died, no one played his music for hours on end. I have no problem for paying respect to a lost artist, but there are limits. Not everyone is a super fan.

If you loved him that much, I’m happy for you and very sorry for your loss, listen to his music and pay tribute in your own home.

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  1. Marie says:

    ~ With all due respect, may you RIP, GD ~

    Re Post: BEING TOLD… I should be mourning, I’m heartless, unpatriotic, etc., … for not mourning…
    Let the music play [with no comment] ‘in tribute to the man, his music, his mission’ – He deserves the tribute in light of his good deeds.

    Worry not of being told this, that or the other, from others who feel as they do… (that’s theirs).
    Others connect in each their own way … you do not … (nor do I) … nor do others.
    There is no issue –

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  2. Milan Jaram Milan Jaram says:

    People gotta stop making everything about themselves.

    The formula goes:

    *current mainstream media topic*

    *me me me me me*

    We get it.

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  3. Jason Ellard Jason Ellard says:

    Someone needs to get laid…

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  4. Turn your radio off then

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  5. The guy JUST passed away. Let people grieve. Sheesh.

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  6. 11 million people disagree with you ⭐️

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  7. MC Elliott MC Elliott says:

    Agreed. I’m an avid music fan of every genre, but Good D’s voice grated on me. Wasn’t a “Hip” fan. Sorry not sorry.

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  8. Rick Murch Rick Murch says:

    You don’t have to mourn his passing but the majority want to pay tribute and listen to his music. For 24 hours I think you can put up with it Mr. First world super whiner.

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    • Vicki Baird Vicki Baird says:

      I think you missed the point!

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    • Vicki Baird it appears that almost 60 other people missed the point too….what was the point? Other that to complain about a Country in mourning on THE DAY that the man passed away?

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    • Vicki Baird Vicki Baird says:

      The point is the comments being made to the OP about not being a fan, I can relate to that because I am not a fan either yet people make comments to me about being stupid for not liking their music! We all don’t have to be a fan just because they are a Canadian band!

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    • Vicki Baird Vicki Baird says:

      I forgot to mention that it is very sad that he passed away, all I have read about him, he was a terrific person and a great ambassador for our country and I agree that radio stations should be playing his music to honor him……I just don’t agree how people think we are stupid for not being fans!

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    • Rick Murch Rick Murch says:

      Vicki Baird I think the original poster made a couple of different points. However saying “I admire his accomplishments….” followed immediately by “People think I am heartless and unpatriotic for not being devastated by his death..” and then leading into whining about radio stations playing his music as tribute…. If someone is saying you admire him, then in almost the same sentence saying having to “listen to his music for hours on end” .. honestly, it is heartless and unpatriotic on the day of his death…

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    • Vicki Baird Vicki Baird says:

      Yes, the OP did carry on more than they should have, I think I picked up on the one point because I have had similar conversations with people.

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    • 24 hours without the Radio on works for many.

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  9. Jocelyn Bear Jocelyn Bear says:

    Was going to suggest turning your radio off as well-problem solved. I’m sure all the radio stations are going to stop playing his music because you don’t like it.

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  10. Adela Leaman Adela Leaman says:

    Who wants to bet the OP is 38 years old and never kissed a girl?

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  11. You are not unpatriotic or heartless for not liking the hip or grieving. The hip overplay will be done by tomorrow. I’m sure you’ll make it.
    PS Streetheart was not half as prolific as the hip. Sorry, not sorry

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  12. Brian Booth Brian Booth says:

    I’m not a Hip fan either but if you don’t understand or are ignorant to the scope of what Gord and The Hip meant to a lot of Canadians and to Canadian music and Canada as a whole then you’re a dipshit. As for the radio issue, as far as I know Sonic is the only radio station doing a full day of The Hip. You’re not heartless for feeling indifferent, you’re a dick for thinking everyone should cater to you.

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    • Brian Booth Brian Booth says:

      Elizabeth are you asking me why I’m so rude? Did you read the post?

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    • The OPs post was rude. This comment is just telling it how it is. The whole world doesn’t need sugar coating on everything. Geez

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    • I agree with the post! I am sorry he died young but other artists that are just as popular do t get all this media! The PM giving a tribute even!

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    • Brian Booth Brian Booth says:

      Please tell me Dawn who else had as much of an impact on Canadian music and culture than The Hip? Almost every Canadian musician since then has been impacted in some way or another by The Hip. Almost one third of Canadians tuned in to watch The Hip’s final concert. I’d say that’s quite a lot of people disagreeing with you.

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    • Jamie Dunlop Jamie Dunlop says:

      I’m not a major superannuation, BUT I know what he’s done for people in Canada. What about all of the work he has done for FNMI and residential school awareness. Not only was he an icon-he was an amazing person, a philanthropist, and just plain badass. I agree though-just because you aren’t impacted by it, doesn’t mean you are a bad Canadian or whatever….

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    • Donna Shears Donna Shears says:

      I’m not a Hip fan either; wrong generation, and have never listened to his music or gone to one of his final concerts. However, I do appreciate the fact that he brought awareness to many things Canadian, and in particular the horrors of the residential school system and the deaths of so many children. My Canadian icon will always be Gordon Lightfoot who also wrote a great deal of music relating to Canada.

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    • Lorie Wilkie Lorie Wilkie says:

      I’m not a Hip fan, never was, never will be. It’s sad that he died from cancer. It’s great he did all these things regarding awareness of residential schools. I personally don’t think he deserves a day in his honour. That’s my opinion and I’m not unpatriotic saying that.

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    • Brian Booth Leonard Cohen was an international influence as well as nationally. His passing was barely noted in comparison.

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    • I admire what he has done but I was never a fan so I can’t get into the platitudes of his music.

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  13. Sharon Swan Sharon Swan says:

    I never even heard of him .. but Trudeau getting all teary eyed … what was that all about ..

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  14. Mari Scott Mari Scott says:

    For one day out of ALL of your days, listening to the Tragically HIp must be so terrible for you. Imagine, turning on the radio and hearing a song? Ughhhh….First world problems. Lighten up!

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  15. Jeremy Dines Jeremy Dines says:

    I’ve never seen someone with the same stick in their ass, as the one they have stuck in the mud. Ftr, cohen got tonnes of airplay when he passed away. I don’t agree with those telling you you’re unpatriotic, but you’re just as bad for complaining about radio stations playing his music for his fans (who drastically outnumber folks like you).

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  16. You don’t have to grieve…..you don’t have to post that you should either!! Too much time on your hands……

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  17. Jaime Boone Jaime Boone says:

    We may not be a part of his family..but he was a part of many of our lives. Suck it up princess and turn on your iPod and let us celebrate what has brought to many Canadians.

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  18. maybe not his music but certainly the good man he was who represented the best of canada..not hard to do

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  19. Honestly

    don’t take things so personally. You will be a great deal happier that way

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  20. Melissa Lee Melissa Lee says:

    Gord Downie, not Downey. You don’t respect the man or like his music, that’s cool. But don’t make this a day about you, ffs. Turn off your radio or listen to a CD. Or read a book. Go for a walk. Ugh. Grow up.

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  21. Jenny Pham Jenny Pham says:

    Have some respect. His name is spelled DOWNIE.

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  22. Lyn Hessels Lyn Hessels says:

    Maybe you also forgot how much he has raised for brain cancer research, what he has done for our indigenous people and how he has raised awareness for brain cancer. If you don’t like his music, you have a choice. One of the things he was always known for was making sure it wasn’t all about him. I hope you can at least respect that.

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  23. Mr. Downie’s music is like a Canadian history lesson. Many other Canadian bands have made it big by losing their Canadian tag (even if only for a while). The Hip wore their Canadianna with the greatest of pride. THAT is why they are known as the quintessential Canadian band. If you don’t want to hear them, turn your radio off for a couple of days. From what I understand, even the Country stations are playing Hip songs. Some people love them. Many people, in fact. Many people are genuinely mourning today. Let them, and don’t be rude about it.

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  24. Mj Mank Mj Mank says:

    Well that is too frickin bad for you right? You could has simply said RIP Gordon Downey whether or not you knew him. no? He was a man of great cause and I believe the tribute to him on the radio i an honor to him, no?

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  25. Marc Cornies Marc Cornies says:

    I agree with the Poster.Although it’s sad about his passing, the media acts as if everyone was a Hip/Gord Downie fan and their significance to Canadian Culture is beyond comparison. Why society chooses to over-hype this death and that death is beyond me. I value the child dying of cancer at the Stollery,who will never get a chance to have the life Gord did, more than anything the Hip or any other Public Figure/Artist brings to the table. People die everyday for various reasons. Where are their tributes and Celebrations? Oh yeah, the back-page of the Sun… People need to keep a little more perspective.

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  26. I can’t believe you wasted your time posting this

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  27. I totally agree with how you feel.
    Although he was a fellow Canadian, a great musician, I just did not like the Tragically Hip’s music either.
    He was tremendous in the way of how he battled his cancer, did the last tour as a farewell thing, a good bye. He represented Canada well.
    You’re not being unpatriotic.

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  28. Robb Buzzeo Robb Buzzeo says:

    So turn your radio off today douchbag

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  29. Sam Weber Sam Weber says:

    I totally agree!!!!!

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  30. Gord is a Canadian icon because he’s an INCREDIBLE HUMAN. Yes his music is his avenue for the message. No you don’t have to like it. But have some respect. This man’s poetic words have shaped the lives of many. I actually feel sorry for you that you are not connected to it.

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  31. He just died . What are we not allowed to listen to the hip ? Just like when prince died I listened to him . Just relax it’s just for today , the day an iconic piece of Canadiana went to fiddlers green

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  32. Amanda Kerr Amanda Kerr says:

    Nobody cares what you think. Don’t listen to the radio and quit complaining.

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  33. I wasn’t a huge fan either. But my husband was and I shall.mourn with him. The hip had enough songs to fill hours of radio with and millions and millions of fans. So why not play it? Its one day….if u don’t like it…turn off the radio. People pay respect in different ways and if this is how the fans want to do it…then let them do it and stop making it about u.

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  34. All I have to say is you can go fuck your hat

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  35. Faye Segaran Faye Segaran says:

    I am only a semi Hip fan and while I do not mourn famous people I do not personaly know … he was loved by many and you have to respect that … if you do not like listening to a day of Hip turn off your radio … play a cd … pick a different station … whatever … but do not mock or belittle the people for wanting to honor him … that is not cool … RIP Mr. Downey

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  36. Kane Blacque Kane Blacque says:

    Gord Downie (1964–2017)

    In December 2016, the Assembly of First Nations honoured Gord Downie for his work highlighting the effects of the residential school system, anointing him with the name “Man Who Walks Among the Stars.”

    Gord Downie spent the final months of his life dedicated to telling the story (Secret Path) of a 12-year-old Ojibway boy named Chanie Wenjack, who died from hunger and exposure after trying to find his way home from the Cecilia Jeffrey Indian Residential School. In 1966, Chanie (Charlie) Wenjack’s body was found by the railway tracks near Kenora, Ontario.

    “This is what I want to do. Nothing else really matters to me.” – Gord Downie

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  37. How many number one hits did The Hip achieve outside of Canada?
    Could the +30% radio content law have played into their success?

    (Oh I can’t say that!!!!)

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  38. If you think this is just about the music – you know nothing.

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  39. Lynn White Lynn White says:

    I think it’s not about his music it’s about a human being lost his life to cancer at a young age. He just happened to have a great job doing what he loved and if people liked his music all the better. Even if you didn’t I’m sure he’d respect that too.

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  40. I’m not a tragically hip fan either but this post is so petty and rude. Maybe one of those things better left unsaid.

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  41. Wow…OMFG!!! You obviously don’t know anything about storytelling and music…….The Tragically Hip, as some of the most awesome music, you hear the soul of every band member with Gord Downie! I get that you don’t like the music but seriously, it’s heartless and pathetic of you to say your opinion on this date.

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  42. Actually, when Leonard Cohen died I think I heard hallelujah over 100 times that week on the radio.

    For the one day deal with it. Hip fans are allowed to mourn and the radio is allowed to play whatever they want. Free country remember? Don’t like it, scroll on when it appears on your newsfeed and change the bloody station if the hip comes on.

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  43. Ya definitely sick of the radio today!!!! When Hugh died they did not play porn all day like what the fuck?

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  44. Dale Ford Dale Ford says:

    You’re too stupid to get it! Not much of a Canadian. Go throw on your Eminem CD and shut the Fuck up clown!

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  45. Evan Marcoff Evan Marcoff says:

    I’m with the OP.

    Don’t really care. Sorry fellas.

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  46. K 97 and sonic are the only stations playing them constantly, which I am crazy grateful for, their music is beautiful. You need to get over yourself, many Edmontonians are happy to be hearing their music all day. Choose a different station and quit being a baby.

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    • Kiernan Burr Kiernan Burr says:

      102.3NOW Radio did an All Hip take over from 12:00-13:00, and CBC Radio 1 did a great tribute to Gord from who knows when to 15:00 today. Fitting tributes to a man who loved this country, all of it, and all that it is. Their music is a catalogue of everything, good and bad, that is Canada. While almost unknown outside Canada, TTH created a musical modern history of our great nation spanning 4 decades.

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  47. Maxine Klak Maxine Klak says:

    If it bothers you that much, just turn your radio off for the day and listen to what you like. Let the rest of us pay tribute as we wish.

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  48. Maya Dines Maya Dines says:

    If it bothers you that much here is a solution for you- just don’t listen to the radio or TV for a day.

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  49. I’m not a big fan as well. It’s not about his music, or that he was Canadian – it’s about a man who stood up to cancer and gracefully kept fighting and living to the end. I salut that so I don’t mind giving up radio for one day if that’s the most I have to do for a family who is suffering his loss right now. So few of us will ever have our stories really told when we are gone so I might even give a listen to get a glimpse of a man with that kind of courage and hear/ feel his legacy.

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  50. It;s because he sang about Canada so much..that’s why he more heavily being associated with being patriotic.. and you have to admit Leonard Cohen was brilliant but not really playable on most radio stations for long periods of time..

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  51. Gord wasn’t just a lead singer of a band. He was a poet, a musician, an advocate for indengeous people, a writer, a storyteller….the list goes on. Some of these Radio Hosts also have peronal experience with Gord, some going to dozens of his venues across Canada and even America. I listened to a few stations today, and was touched at how many people were calling/texting in telling their own experiences meeting Gord or just singing along to him at a concert. It’s one day, honoring Gord, and all he stood for. Perhaps just shut your pie hole today.

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  52. Wow, His music was my childhood, your’s must of sucked the big one!

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  53. Patrick Maloney is this you???

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  54. Dean Klassen Dean Klassen says:

    I respect other opinions, so that is fine. I happen to love the Hip, their music has been a large part of my life and my band. I for one, am always going to turn up a Hip song when I hear it. Otherwise, if I don’t like a song that the radio is play, I change the channel…

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  55. I was never a fan of the hip, quite the opposite actually. I met the hip once, I won’t tarnish the legacy of mr downie by repeating what I heard come from his mouth, made me an instant anti hip fan. That said I know he did a lot of good for Canada, didn’t really deserve to go out the way he did. I shut off my radio and turned up my mp3. Just sayin

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  56. Or, you know, turn off the radio and don’t give it so much headspace.

    His legacy is profound, and his music has spanned generations.

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  57. I feel this way about hockey. I hate hockey and I’m sick of being told that makes me less Canadian. I’m sick of watching a bunch of mostly white males fight over a puck and get paid absurd amounts. I’m sick of women not being properly represented in sports. In real sports when you have a tantrum and beat up another player, there are consequences.

    I’m not a huge hip fan either but nobody has said I need to be.

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  58. You asked
    Got your answer

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  59. Respectfully I read everything you had to say. I can appreciate that people cannot empathize or relate to being emotional over the loss of a great icon especially when they haven’t impacted your life.
    I explained earlier to another group that you don’t have to personally know someone to be completely heartbroken over their loss. People connect in ways others won’t ever understand. Sometimes people resonate their life with music or songs that touched them in a way during a specific time that you wouldn’t understand. Connect with it or don’t.

    Please don’t sit here and complain about how much his music is being played on air over our Canadian stations when you can turn it off and plug in your damn playlist. Have some respect.

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  60. Actually in Winnipeg they did for both Kenny Shields and Leonard Cohen!!!!

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  61. Julie Cooper Julie Cooper says:

    Not a hip fan. BUT I think he is one of the first Canadians to publicly call us all out on the Residential School crisis. We have as a country thought we are the nice guys, but we have an extremely ugly history that kept being hidden. I didn’t even know RS’s existed until I was in my 30’s in the 2000’s!!

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  62. I didnt know him. I really didnt listen to his music. I did recognize what a special human being and soul he was though. For a person to spend his last months doing much for his fellow man and make everyone of aware and think of our part in society I mourn with everyone. WE are losing way to many Canadian icons but more importantly we are losing to many people who made this world a difference.

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  63. nice to see some people can use the passing of another to get some notice in the world. So someone said something to imply that you should be saddened by his passing……does that mean you have to cry to strangers about an implied obligation? Are you that much of a snowflake?
    Yes, he was a prominent Canadian, I enjoyed his music on occasion, but I will not sob and wail, nor will I say I am not in some saddened by his passing.
    Congrats, you got your attention, now scram! FFS, dumbest post I have seen today!

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  64. Jessy Turner Jessy Turner says:

    Trag was the best as a teen partying in the bush watching the pallets burn. Guess you never been.

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  65. Cause this is the way it feels !!!!

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  66. I agree with the OP as well. Never been a fan. Shame he died. But I think so many of you are focused on the radio bit and not on the part of the post where the OP said they are being called heartless and unpatriotic. That’s wrong no matter what your opinion of the Hip is.

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  67. Mac Simm Mac Simm says:

    Who told you had to do anything? Silence is Golden.

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  68. Wow… my Momma taught me if you can’t say anything nice…..

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  69. ok so u dont give a shit thats fine
    but why u feel the need to broadcast it
    shitdisturber
    we dont need to hear it
    just put ur own music on then n stfu
    you dont like the music who cares
    not our problem you dont know what good music is

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  70. Cee Dee Hawn Cee Dee Hawn says:

    You are a rude little selfish human.

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  71. Ruth Beter Ruth Beter says:

    I couldn’t agree more

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  72. Nothing wrong with this post . U came across respectfully imo. Nothing wrong with that

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  73. Leila Klos Leila Klos says:

    Suck it up, buttercup. What have you done that is so noteworthy you feel you have to slag Gord?

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  74. Cameron Lenz Cameron Lenz says:

    thousands of people die every day hes no one specail he is just the the rwst of the thound that died today and i say good by to the old hello new

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  75. I too can not figure out all this hoopla … I mean really. I think i felt more sadness when I heard of the death of Don Williams,

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  76. I will mourn his death as a Canadian and sister who lost her brother to the disease. When I here gbm tumor that is a grade 4 I cry and hope that the person will Survive a horrible disease. Gordon fought and won his battle to the best his abilities and my hope is the next person that is diagnosed will have a better survival because of the ones who gave us a little hope. Rip Gordon.

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  77. I always hated their music. I don’t know why, but that’s the way I felt and still feel. BUT…..He is a Great Canadian and truly a treasure and I feel sad for his family and all of his fans. I just chose not to listen to the radio today…

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  78. Hey, if you don’t like what’s playing on the radio..here’s a novel idea…change the station or shut it off!

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  79. Wes Johnson Wes Johnson says:

    This post has Jody Mitoma written all over it. Approved pretty dang quick and so much to say. If you don’t like people showing respect for someone who was rooted in pure Canadiana, influencing many of us in differently impactful ways, then be a grown up person and learn to move through life ignoring things. It will help you in the future. Idiot.

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  80. Ryan Nadeau Ryan Nadeau says:

    i have never bought a album of theirs or ever listened to them, but i sure do respect what they have done for the Canadian music Industry and Gord was a true Canadian and loved his country, RIP to a true Canadian legend

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  81. Rest In Paradise Gord Downey May you live on forever in your Music my Favorite is 38 years Old

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  82. Oh, but he was so much more than a musician though! Have a look at his humanitarian efforts!

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  83. Hell ya!!! You will be missed u amazing man

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  84. And your response is equally as baby-ish.

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  85. Lmao how so exactly?? I’m curious.

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  86. Rhon Magyar Rhon Magyar says:

    Why do you even partake in a conversation about it then? Even this post is inviting it

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  87. GET A FUCKING LIFE !! OH POOR YOU !!!! You fucker LOSER !!!! TWAT !!! MORON !!
    You not unpatriotic, your just a ASSHOLE !!

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  88. I agree COMPLETELY! I respected him as a talented artist and someone who’s had great influence in the music industry and in Canada in general, and I am SO tired of being told I’m “not a true Canadian” despite being born and raised in this country simply because I don’t like his music and am not having a mental breakdown over his death. People like different things, get over it! This guy is being respectful and is simply asking to be treated the same way, you guys calling him names and insulting him for voicing his opinion are the ones who are idiots.

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  89. He wasn’t just a musician… he did so much more for our Country. You obviously don’t understand that.

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  90. Wow, unbelievable , get a life!

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  91. Oh go and filter another profile picture and leave mourning people alone you selfish, self-righteous twit Bonnie.

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  92. Let me just start by saying I’m Australian and don’t even pretend to understand the loss that most Canadians are feeling right now. From the little I’ve learned and heard about Gord and the Hip and what they meant to many people, including the fans here in Oz, you should sit yourself down and be bloody thankful that you had such a brilliant embassdor for your culture and country. You don’t have to love him or grieve him, I’m sorry people called you unpatriotic for not doing so, but for fucks sake have some respect.

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  93. Oh go and attack a differing opinion by going so deep. oh my god im so hurt cara. get a fucking life

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  94. Watch out, if you have an opinion other than “they were the best band ever, i love them” you will be attacked by Cara the Keyboard Warrior.

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