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Christmas Brat

I have a 9 year old nephew who is a spoiled rotten brat, if things don’t go his way or you ask him to do something as simple as hand you an item he has a complete melt down and cry’s like a baby. (he does not have anything wrong with him mentally or physically).

He has ruined the past 2 Christmas’s at my parents house because of his attitude. For example he thought he was entitled to all the toys in my family’s Christmas crackers and when I said no he had a complete melt down at the dinner table causing my dad to yell at him to smarten up.

His parents do nothing to discipline him and buy him all the hot toys to not have to deal with his tantrums.

I am waiting to see what this brat is going to do this year and to have another Christmas ruined.

Any advice on what to do as I am not allowed to say anything to him or his parents but sick and tired of having to deal with this BS.

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  1. there is nothing wrong with showing your nephew how a sleeper hold works but putting him in said sleeper hold.

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  2. Try a brazilian ju jit su triangle submission hold

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  3. Kevin Barry Kevin Barry says:

    Throat punch him!

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  4. you sound like a child yourself.

    speak with his parents and let them know if he is still a wild child they are not welcome over for Xmas dinner. problem solved

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  5. I believe this is a lot of kids today unfortunately, I 100 percent blame the parents!

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  6. Kim Phelps Kim Phelps says:

    Parents need to put their foot down. They are enabling him to be this way. Materialistic items do not encourage good behavior. This isn’t your nephews fault in anyway.its the parents thinking buying him everything is going to shut him up. Remove the “Bribery” and this will start the necessary behavior that they so desire.

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  7. Spend some time with him on a one on one basis and talk to him and just LOVE him. Teach him acceptable behaviour. If he gets everything material from his parents, chances are is that he doesn’t get any guidance.

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  8. Hopefully he has grown out of this stage since last Christmas…if not time spent alone in a cold back yard might cool him down…

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  9. Dont blame the kid, blame the parents. And blame your own buy into the consumer driven, materialistic lie that is Christmas to begin with.

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  10. Sean Matthew Sean Matthew says:

    Its his parents. Everytime he acts out and they give in to him all that shows him that he can have whatever he wants if he acts out. You need to give the parents a few books on parenting. Or a few parenting classes. Undesirable behaviour has to be delt with or it continues. With enough time he will grow up to be a SJW liberal.

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  11. Don’t go to family Christmas? Have your own instead of it bothers you

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  12. The best gift you could give him might be a field trip to a place where the less fortunate people live..perhaps a volunteer shift where there are adults and kids struggling might help him put things into perspective. It would be a gift that would keep giving with every moment of peace you all receive lol

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  13. There is nothing you can do except not show up. And you are not going to do that are you…. The power in this situation does not rest with you, so you have two choices……ignore him and try to have a good christmas with family, or don’t go and protest.

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  14. Mind your own business

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  15. Tina Adam Tina Adam says:

    Perhaps a trip to the food bank donation warehouse with him? Teach him how ‘lucky’ he is.

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  16. My cousin and her kids lol my cousin has to order her supper because they like pizza better, she spends her money on toys and candy because they cry for it, we went to a community dinner and her kids cried the whole time because the place didn’t have Wi-Fi for their devices, they embarrassed the shit out of me, the littlest one hitting his mom for.other kids balloons and my cousin sat there with this mad look on her face, right beside her kids, they scream, and swear for everything, while their mom gives in and she wanders why no one wants to hang out with her kids and her lol her littlest one even pretends to act like my severe autistic child, who is non verbal and does not have to try and get attention, it just comes to her with her happy big smile and flappy hands and she’s 8 and her 4 yr old son will stand beside her and flap his hands too and copies her every move and his mom will catch it tell him to quit lol but he will cry for everyone’s attention and he looks like penny wise when he cries for nothing or everything we have in our hands, and penny wise is one fugly clown but that’s who he looks like and he s 4 and her twins are 7 and her middle child.is 5 and they are not cute kids at all

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  17. Hes going to turn into a wonderful adult

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  18. Why are you not allowed to say anything to him? Prepare a line such as “This attitude will get you arrested or killed before you become an adult. Quit It!

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  19. Liz Dubray Liz Dubray says:

    It’s not the kids fault. It’s the parents fault. If they knew how to say no once in a while and control their child instead of letting their child control them, probably go a little smoother.

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  20. Punch him in the face.

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  21. If you got him something and he acts ungrateful and spoiled when he receives it, take him on Boxing Day with the gift(s) from you and have him physically place the items in the donation bin. Explain to him that if he can’t be grateful for those items from you then another child can benefit from it.

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  22. This child is not being shown how to behave nicely. When you need to tell him no to something, keep in mind the reason why it’s no. Instead of saying “no, you can’t have all the toys in the Christmas crackers”, you could say “other people want a toy from their cracker, you get the toy from your cracker.” When that doesn’t sit well, just say “we all want the toy from our cracker”. Basically, just share your point of view since no one else has done that for him. He’s going to resist at first, but just be calm and neutral. After you’ve said it a couple times, just drop it and find something else to occupy your mind. Eventually, he may see you as someone he can trust. Because you’re being fair and friendly, and you’re not giving in. Deep down, he knows what’s right, and you’re just confirming it for him.

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  23. They will have a nightmare on their hands when he is a teen and he will have a hard time holding down a job because on a job you don’t get your way… go ahead and speak up, don’t let him ruin your holiday, and don’t let him have the Christmas cracker toys.. and feel free to tell the parents the kid is out of control and needs structure (but do this in a nice way).

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  24. Laura Hunt Laura Hunt says:

    Do your best to set a good example yourself. Do your best to not be reactive to his behavior. Stay calm and don’t unwittingly reward the behavior with your emotional response.

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  25. Judy Plant Judy Plant says:

    Not much you can do unless you see him a lot to teach him how to behave. Why not ask him why he acts like that. Make him feel embarrassed for his actions.

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  26. Simple dont go or say something to the parents if he is acting up. I know my kids didnt like being at my moms for dinners because it was boring for them soooo I decided to do them at my home and invite parents over that way my kids are home and content with their own things and space

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  27. Dude if my kids acted that way (I would never allow it) and I wasn’t around to direct the behavior my sister would be stepping in immediately and I would be ok with it.
    As you can’t say or do anything I don’t really know what to say other than trying to sit down with your sibling directly and speak to them in private.

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  28. Randi May Randi May says:

    I’d say something anyways obviously kid needs to be disciplined or he wouldn’t act out and seeing as his parents aren’t interested, you mayswell stand up to the plate.

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  29. Denean Neena Denean Neena says:

    Say something to the parent’s buying his silence obviously this child is smart enough to know if he flips out he will get his way anyway needs some sort of adult to be stern on his behaviours

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  30. Why aren’t you allowed to say anything

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  31. Angela Budd Angela Budd says:

    If it’s at your house. Your rules. If it’s not. Then all you can do is discipline yourself and if his parents don’t like it then they will speak up and hopefully discipline themselves. If not, remove yourself from the situation and be clear as to why and hopefully the family whole will work to rectify the situation so you can all be together.

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  32. Marie says:

    My guess #1 is; your nephew may well have something going on … undiagnosed.
    My guess #2 is; his parents may well have something mentally wrong going on with them… and it sounds as though they are in serious need of some parenting and/or caregiving skills.

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  33. Tell him to cut his crap off. If his parents want to be shit parents someone has to tell him to knock it off. I have told my 12 year old brother to quit acting like a self entitled spoiled brat because no one else will.

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  34. There’s really nothing you can do if the parents won’t deal with the problem. I’m sad for the child because his life is going to be all the harder by this response to disappointment.

    I feel for all of you though too. My son is 4 and a bit and does the same thing when he doesn’t get his way but we’re trying to deal with it head on and have had to really come together as parents (as well as my parents) to be on the same page with dealing with it.

    If at all possible maybe have a heart to heart with your sibling about how you’re worried about his behaviour?! This may be terrible advice, I’m an only and if they’re sensitive might cause a fight…I don’t know. But maybe they feel in over their heads. Buy them super nanny dvds for Christmas, lol.

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  35. Erin Saville Erin Saville says:

    I second what Sarah Grace Martin said. If I had a family member like that I’d say screw Christmas with them and have my own!!

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  36. This is clearly because of a lack of parental guidance but some of this is on you all as well. If you (or your parents) allow this behaviour, it’s as good as condoning it. You need to say something. If you don’t then you really can’t complain!

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  37. Aja Novic Aja Novic says:

    I don’t see anything wrong with disciplining your nephew if needed. You’re family after all. If my kid acts out everyone is welcome to set him straight verbally and family can go ahead and use physical discipline if needed. It takes a village to raise a child and sometimes kids respond better to people other than parents.

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  38. Easy. Don’t ask anything of the kid and give him whatever he wants. Problem solved

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  39. At some point someone has to tell him that his behaviour is unacceptable because let’s face it, he may not even know what acceptable behaviour is. If this person has to be you, then so be it.

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  40. Ask his parents too look after their child

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  41. Nothing you can do

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