Relationship help

I have been with my man for 5 years now. Everything was great, we had a very healthy relationship in all aspects. But for the last year or so we have had no intamicy..

I have tried talking and asking but never get a real answer other then “I don’t know” I know he’s not cheating on me, it has happened to me in before I’m the past and he shows no signs that any of my exes did when they were cheating.. I come home from work at different times every night and he’s always home, never gone not knowing where he is.

Iguess my question is what should I do? I’ve tried talking and asking why we are no longer intimate with getting no answer or explanation. I don’t even feel like we are a couple anymore, just two friends living together. A lot has happened to the both of us in the last 2 years, good and bad, and I don’t know if that has any relation to any of this.

Any actual related advice would be great. Not looking for petty comments or keyboard warriors.



13 Responses

  1. Alexis Musik Alexis Musik says:

    He sounds like he’s depressed. Maybe you are just friends now it happens. Ask him

  2. Mandoid Ray Mandoid Ray says:

    Buy something sexy. Dress up for him. Seduce him. Gotta step out of the box.

  3. Couples counselling, seriously. Have an impartial third party help you get to the root cause of this change.

  4. I agree with the first commenter.

    When I went through a bad bout of depression I wanted nothing to do with being kisses, touched, etc. And at the time when asked about it I didnt really get why. But thinking back now at that time it was the depression killing my libido. Now I actually have a desire for sex. Its crazy.

    Maybe just mention going to see a mental health specialist to make sure he’s oka.

  5. If you love him fight. Every relationship has bumps.
    Wear something sexy. Cook in it. Put champagne on ice. Start baby steps. Send one sexy text during the day and keep him thinking about it until he gets home. You got this!

  6. Carly Brunet Carly Brunet says:

    Stress, anxiety, depression combined with poor health, sleep habits, smoking, drinking, etc. can affect your libido. It can ups and downs just like other phases in our lives. Talk to him, if he doesn’t want to, go to counselling by yourself. My husband and I have gone to therapy for separate reasons and I would recommend that to anyone. But most importantly, be there for him unconditionally as you’d want him to be for you of the roles were reversed.

  7. Chris Dumais Chris Dumais says:

    Maybe he’s just realized he’s gay.

  8. It’s depression. Trust me, I’ve been there. Just be there for him, get him outside and doing things, don’t force him, but low energy encourage. I beat it by just keep moving forward, but with someone to guide you along it’s far easier.


  10. Maja Black Maja Black says:

    Take the television and all devices out of the bedroom!

  11. Try reiki for couples …. it’s not for everyone but worth a try … good luck and hope you all the best

  12. Adam Dee Adam Dee says:

    Has he started any new medication in that time? There could be an easy explanation.


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