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Baby mamas don’t be bitches!

Hey Baby Mamas….ya you there! Don’t use your kids to be mean ass bitches at Christmas time. I know of three salty bitches that are using their kids to inflict as much hurt on their ex’s as they can by not letting them spend any time with their kids.

This public service notice is coming from an adult who was used at Christmas time. My mom hated my dad. Maybe with good reason, he was a dick to her. But all I wanted was to be happy at Christmas. My parents would yell at each other, my mom would be all high and mighty and my dad would beg and cry just to have a few hours with me and my brother.

When I was old enough to realize this I was mad at both of them. And, I’ve had this done to me. My ex won’t let me see my kid on Christmas Day. Or Boxing Day even though she has to work and my boy will be at his grandparents, where he is every weekend he’s not with me. I just want to spend a few hours with him. And give him a present. It’s not going to end the world or wreck her plans. She’s just being like this because she has the power to be mean and is flexing her muscles.

Don’t use your kids ever, but especially at this time of year. I’m still screwed up about my childhood. I won’t fight with my ex and hurt my kid the way I was hurt. But again, don’t be a bitch at Christmas. It’s all about the kids.

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  1. Adam Dee Adam Dee says:

    Thank GOD my ex stayed sane and rational after we separated…

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  2. Agreed.. parents need to put the kids first and not use them as pawns. If you don’t let the kid see the other parent you are hurting the kids the most.

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  3. Nicole Getty Nicole Getty says:

    Or use them as a paycheque…..cause u know getting almost $2000 a month in child support is not enough

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  4. Thats just sad. Time to grow up!

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  5. Instead of calling her baby mama try calling her the mother of your child. If there is visitation issues I say get a hold of a lawyer. Changing how you approach things may make things easier for you especially if you are genuinely are thinking about how things are affecting your child.By being emotional towards her allows her to feel she has the control. By using a mediator and changing how you address her in conversation etc will remove her ability to control things and you get your say in things.

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  6. Tannis Fong Tannis Fong says:

    Goes both ways. I know of dads who pull this garbage too. Please, think of your kids and remember how important they are. They are people, not pawns.

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  7. Ina MacLeod Ina MacLeod says:

    then there are some of us who get zero support despite a court order, dont get your child a card on a birthday or a gift at christmas even thought they know damn well where you live, not a call or even an email.

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  8. Agreed. Kids have to be allowed to be kids. But BOTH Parents have to be Parents every single day of the year. She’s working Boxing Day and the child is at the Grandparents. I’m not sure what you’re doing in this.

    I’m not saying this is your particular case but…Whether its the Mother or Father getting sentiment at Christmas but not supporting the child emotionally and finanically, the other days of the year, its BS.

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  9. And baby dads being d!cks making no effort. #bothways

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  10. When my parents split up, my whole life turned upside down. The first Christmas after the event, which so happened to be a month later, my dad was not even allowed to be with us. Instead, some strange man, who later became my step father, spent Christmas day with us. I was devastated and very hurt. The next year a court order stipulated that us children were at least able to spend boxing day with our dad. He went to great pains to make sure that day was very memorable for us. This lasted into our adulthood and I eventually was able to forgive my momma. When my ex husband and I ended our relationship he was worried that I was going to keep our son from him, after my own personal experience I swore to never repeat what happened to me. We agreed to alternating Christmases and now that our son is an adult himself, he still does this. There is hope, be patient and if need be, get it court ordered. The most important thing to remember is that your child should always come first.

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  11. Makes me sad for the kids who miss out. Both parents are important. I wish people who break up would agree to put the kids first 100% of the time. Life would be so much easier. Merry Christmas, OP.

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  12. Ange Freer Ange Freer says:

    Salty bitches. That’s a new one. I kinda got a chuckle out of the term. On a serious note … I agree children should NEVER be used in such a horrendous way. My sympathies go out to you. I hope you have a Merry Christmas despite the deliberate pain she has caused you.

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  13. Rachel Hart Rachel Hart says:

    I agree Christmas should be shared amongst both parents, when my sons father when in his life and asked for a week at Christmas time with him I agreed as it was only fair and my son and I celebrated Christmas together before he left and when he got back we went to my parents house to celebrate with them.

    I just wish he would make the effort now to at least say merry Christmas and happy birthday to my son on those occasions

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  14. People should try to put their BS aside for a few days and let the kids enjoy the holiday. It’s not that hard to think of the kids first. My children’s dad and I split it with zero issue or fighting. So long as the other parent is going to be there and wants the kids for some time then their should be no holding them from the other…

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  15. Stan Riedel Stan Riedel says:

    Nice of you to make that clear.. hear of many circumstances. HAPPY Xmas to you all.. from our fams to yours..

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  16. No wonder why she’s being that way towards you lol

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  17. Trish Down Trish Down says:

    How about everyone stop pointing fingers for ONE DAY???!!!
    Please
    Set a better example
    Be a better person
    Assume responsibility for the good in your life and give no energy to the bad
    Otherwise you are just another part of the problem

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  18. Julia Bryce Julia Bryce says:

    name calling helps with nothing though.

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  19. My kids’ dad comes over every Xmas morning to watch his girls (now teens) open gifts. They also spend Xmas eve with his side of the family. He’s always been welcome to come to dinner with my side. Jesus. Why fight over this crap? All it does is hurt the kiddos.

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  20. Erin Antoine Erin Antoine says:

    Then there’s those of us who invite him over but instead he goes out gambling and forgets he has kids who were waiting for him to come back as he said :/

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  21. Lu Albadry Lu Albadry says:

    both need to grow up and think about your kid

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  22. I would be happy if my girl was able to see her daddy on Christmas that’s all she asks..

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  23. It is the children’s right to spend quality time with both of their parents and their extended family. When 1 parent takes that right away they are hurting and confusing their children. Children begin to think they did something wrong and that’s why they can’t see them. I know because I was one of those children. My mom took my rights away to spend time with my dad. She lied about him, bad mouthed him and used us to hurt him. My brother hates her for it and I lost all respect for her when I found out the lies she told to keep him out of our lives.
    Parents need to be mature and work their stuff out or figure out a way of dealing with each other for the sake of the children.

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  24. Pagan Heart Pagan Heart says:

    You may get a better response if you used proper grammar.

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  25. Uh yeaahhh, this goes for dads, too. I know this from experience.

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  26. Tara Adams Tara Adams says:

    If you are grown up enough to lay down and make a baby…then be grown up enough to raise said kid..in a loving way..just share the love..act like adults..put your differences aside.. co-parent..
    It may not be easy..but it definitely will make all the difference to the kids involved #kidsfirst

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