I am looking into bedwetting alarm for my 7 year old. My dr said it is developmental and likely that bladder control isn’t there fully or signal doesn’t reach the brain. No issues in the daytime. I have tried an alarm before (malem) and considering other models. Tried incentives but rarely have been able to reward it. Try to restrict liquids at night and goes to the bathroom before bed. Sometimes wakes up an hour to 2 hours after but still has bedsheets or pads that are wet and gross. Very frustrating and embarrassing for my child and myself. It is great that many don’t have this issue but this isn’t really a behaviour or parental lazy issue= “developmental!”. Dr suggested an alarm. Many of the top rated isn’t available in Canada- tried Amazon. What have you used and price? I saw one I can rent for about 89+18/wk . Saw the dri and shield for about 100-200. I really want to end this issue. I want to maximize the few dry wake ups we have!



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  1. A friends child had this issue. And has still not fully gone away. It is without a doubt a phase. The girl couldn’t even do sleepovers because of the teasing. Anyways, nothing worked and she tried everything. She was only able to use pull ups and then depends. Good luck.

  2. Tracy Nickel Tracy Nickel says:

    It’s a development thing. Please be gentle with your child, as ick as it is for you, it’s worse plus incredibly embarrassing for him/her.

  3. Adrianne Gaa Adrianne Gaa says:

    There is meds to help, worth to look into it helps

  4. Sometimes it is what it is. I had 2 outta my 4 that wet the bed it’s frustrating as hell. But they will grow out of it just gotta hang in there and get mattress protectors. Unless you want to medicate your child there’s that option too. But I recommend letting them outgrow it. It’s temporary

  5. Joanne Hall Joanne Hall says:

    I have also heard eliminating any dairy after supper. No milk, cheese, yogurt it or icecream before bed.

  6. I did this as well took about a year.

  7. Skye Brown Skye Brown says:

    Look into sleep apnea. There is a link between the 2.

    Also average age for kids outgrowing bed wetting is between 6-9.

  8. Lynn Meger Lynn Meger says:

    I had the same problem when I was growing up, and I still remember what a doctor told me that really helped.

    When you dream about going to the washroom, or about having to go to the washroom, then wake up because you have to go.

    It sounds ridiculous, but it really helped me.

  9. Kerry Lynn Kerry Lynn says:

    That was me as a kid and my parents did all that sort of thing. I can say just be gentle with the child. It was so embarrassing for me but I really had no control of it. At least now there are pull ups and such. I grew out of it eventually, I was around 8 when I didn’t have any more accidents. One of my nieces had the same issue.

    Be patient and empathetic or won’t last forever but how you make them feel lasts a lifetime.

  10. Ok, hun. My oldest was a bed wetter. We tried everything you can imagine, to no avail. He wet the bed until he hit puberty at 12. Then he was done. Fast forward a few years and my now boyfriend has 2 boys who wet the bed. His oldest is now 14 and has stopped. His youngest is 7 and wets the bed almost every night. Sometimes, it’s just what they do and nothing you try will prevent it. Believe me, I tried it all. Our doc recommended meds for my guy when he was 8, but it didn’t sit well with me. Turns out those same meds caused some children to develop complications and pass away. True story. Don’t stress. Do what you can to make it tidy (pullups/overnights) and he WILL stop, at least once he hits puberty.

  11. Do you see a chiropractor? If so mention it to the chiropractor, it’s amazing how they can help

  12. Holly Chequis yes I heard of this working for a friend of mine as well it took only a few days too

  13. My daughter saw a chiropractor for this issue and it ended within a few treatments. Never had an issue since and that was 4yrs ago.

  14. We tried alarms, meds, pull ups etc nothing worked, until child grew out of it at 18. Was not a behavioural issue and he very much wanted to stop, developmentally the control just wasn’t there.

  15. Ruth Wadley Ruth Wadley says:

    The medical supplies stores have fabric pads to put over the sheets so your not changing the bedding all the time. They are used mostly for seniors but could be really helpful here. Just throw in the washer each morning.

  16. Ana Lacayo Ana Lacayo says:

    My 9 year still has once or twice a month accidental bedwetting. The first thing i did was cut her drinking nothing after 7 pm. The frist month i would wake up at 2 am and 4 am. I aslo stop buying bed pad or night time pull up for her. But now she she wakes up by herself.

  17. What is stressful in her life? And how much processed food including red dye stuff?
    I wet my bed when i was about 9 for a year or two. Moved, new friends,new school, stressed. It went away after a while on it’s own. Just be patient and understanding.

  18. I peed the bed until I was 9/10… there a a few reason as to why not going into them but what it came done to was I couldn’t feel when I needed to pee (even during the day) I am also a very heavy sleeper once asleep. Ana do you have some suggestions??

  19. Daniie Hardy Daniie Hardy says:

    Kidney diseases can also cause bedwetting. Keep an eye on things.

  20. Shawna Jones Shawna Jones says:

    Dont bother. My kid’s incontinence was cured with b12 and b6 therapy.

  21. Dana McVey Dana McVey says:

    My sister did that also, but it took years for her son because he was a deep sleeper.

  22. Cindy Hill Cindy Hill says:

    This is what we did wtih my son as well…we found midnight to be the best time for him.

  23. Melissa Ulm Melissa Ulm says:

    We bought one on Amazon.
    It worked well to wake her up. However she just isn’t ready yet. She wakes up crying several times a night disappointed the alarm is going off, and it’s caused more issues then the bed wetting does. She is a VERY deep sleeper. The signal isn’t strong enough. The alarm will go off 2-3 times in 8 hours. She is peeing all night long! She had a couple dry nights after a couple weeks of use, but quickly goes back to having accidents. We’ve had ultrasounds done and everything is normal. She will pee at 8:30 before going to bed. The alarm will go off an hour later. It doesn’t matter what we do, it doesn’t work for her. She wears good nights underwear at bed time. I wash her up every morning before school. It’s just part of her routine. We don’t shame her, we explained every one is different and she will grow out of it eventually.
    My son who is 3, has NEVER peed the bed at night since getting out of diapers. No training required. It won’t last forever! Hang in there !

  24. Carri Nelson Carri Nelson says:

    We did this as well. Restricted liquids 1/2 hr before bed. Peeing twice before bed & would take our child to the washroom at 11pm before we went to bed. Took a couple years & now she’s good.
    It’s totally a developmental this as the bladder sometimes does not grow as fast as the rest of the body.
    There’s no need to be ashamed for your child for something they literally have no control over. Support & encouragement all the way

  25. Cindy Dato Cindy Dato says:

    I work in a hospital, and we have very thick soakers you put on top of the sheets. No pee goes through this pad. If u want a few let me know.

  26. My son had the same issue and there was a medication that helped him a lot we used it when he wanted to attend sleepovers etc and the alarms may or may not work I had to set my alarm for 2-3 am and got him up again before 7 it helped until he didn’t need it anymore my son was just that deep of a sleeper that he never woke up without me

  27. Tara Floyd Tara Floyd says:

    Was just told about a hormone med. Apparently it can be caused by a hormone imbalance. Going to look into it myself as my daughter has the same issue and nothing has helped. Tests all normal. But can be normal as old as 12 for a small percentage.

  28. My daughter peed her bed until early this year and she is almost 9. She sometime still does but she is pretty good. I think most kids have this problem and grow out of it. It’s a lot of work! I feel for you

  29. Edited my post because I realized this was a public page and didn’t want to “announce” what one of my kids struggled with. But PM me if you’d like as there is a medication that can be prescribed and it works amazing!!!!

  30. Marina Rose Marina Rose says:

    Just a heads up: after trying EVERYTHING the paediatrician could think of (which took years) we had to use incontinent products. I found out years later that he had been terrorized by his stepfather. I’m not suggesting you are having the same issue but I had absolutely no idea it was going on at the time.

  31. Karley Marie Karley Marie says:

    My daughters got issues from abuse from her father so wets the bed… I would see if there is maybe an underlying issue (not necessarily abuse) aswell

  32. Aaron Frank Aaron Frank says:

    Could try diapers, or alternatively watch what he eats and drinks. Many drinks contain substances like caffeine that induce bladder control issues.

  33. My son had this problem and was eventually diagnosed with adhd. FYI it was inattentive adhd and didn’t have the same behaviours as impulsive adhd who tend to be more hyper. So I didn’t even think of it. After he started meds the bed wetting stopped. Just saying, sometimes it can be brain wired a bit differently and needing help. Just a possibility.

  34. Jess Ica Jess Ica says:

    I have one for sale used twice, my daughter is a really deep sleeper and her issue is she just doesn’t wake up, my kids share a room and my other daughter is to much of a lite sleeper and it wakes her up pm me if interested

  35. I have 3 kids, the first 2 were completely day/night trained by 3 yrs old and never an accident.

    My last baby is now 7 and although parented/trained the same, still has no bladder control at night. It is not a behavioral issue for most kids and they will outgrow it as their bodies and brains develop and mature.

    Medicine is an option I have considered but currently just use nighttime underwear; rarely does urine pass through the “underwear” onto the sheets/bedding.

    The last thing we should do as parents is reprimand or shame a child over it, that would be counterproductive and end up damaging them emotionally and mentally.

    • Yes I would add DRs do not worry until child is at least 12. Be supportive. use pull-ups and have bedding ready to go in the middle of the night. there are lots of kids that go through this.

    • My oldest is now nearly 11.

      She wet the bed until 8 and then it’s gotten better. We are probably down to twice a year when she still has an accident.
      The way we dealt with it was waking her up at 11 to go to the bathroom for months.

    • Please don’t try the meds! Research before you go that route.

    • Same for us – 3 kids, no issues with the first 2, last one was about 8 when she finally grew out of it. Used the night time pull ups until she stayed dry for 1 week, then tried without. A couple of set backs but worked eventually. Also tried an alarm but I didn’t have the energy/will to stick with it as first the parent has to help and train the kid to wake up.

  36. Sometimes it could be psychological…

  37. Alison Cowan Alison Cowan says:

    This is what my daughter has been doing for her son. It works.

  38. Some kids bodies are out of alignment with their spine and/or hip bones pushing on a nerve. Could try seeing a chiropractor.

  39. There is a medication, I forget the name. I have used alarm underwater, didn’t work and it was major expensive. Look up.. the bed wetting store

  40. Krys Tolman Krys Tolman says:

    Acupuncture might be a solution.

  41. my sister was a bed wetter until age 13 … she did grow out of it. We would wake her before we went to bed but she had no control over the night time peeing. My mom would just get her up a bit early she would shower and we would all pitch in to do her bed change. She will grow out of it…

    • Cheryl Doubinin that’s what I did with my son. He grew out of it around 11/12. Until then he woke and showered. I stripped the bedding. Washed down the plastic mattress barrier. Changed the bedding with fresh. Did this at least 5 times a week. Never once made him feel bad or wrong. And his older brother was taught to understand his issue. He grew out of it and lives a full normal life.

    • Cheryl Doubinin it’s work. It’s frustrating. But I realized early I can’t get mad about this. I purchased extra sheets. And a couple comforters. It was literally only 10 minutes of my day. Stripping a twin bed and re making it. Just have spares on hand. Never once was the bed wetting an issue. It was normalized until it went away. Not a big deal. Can’t be helped. My son has grown into a very mature, productive, responsible man. Don’t worry about this too much and just make it as comfortable and respectful as you can.

    • There’s nothing wrong with your son at all.

  42. My dad gave my sister 2 table spoons of honey before bed she quit took a week but yes it works…

  43. 2 of my children were prescribed meds for this. One was on it for 2 days, and the other 2 weeks. Worked very quickly for them both.

  44. I would wake my daughter before I went to bed. Quick pee and she would be great until morning

  45. Try DDAVP . It worked for us. She was on it for about 3 months.

  46. My Dad use the Belt on my brother a cpl times and he never pissed the bed again

    • Clinton John Marty so sorry your brother was abused 🙁 how sad for both of you

    • In our day it wasn’t called abuse it was Discipline… and we turned out just fine

    • Alison Cowan Alison Cowan says:

      Melissa Swinamer Discipline is setting limits and administering consequences. Abuse is inflicting injuries. If you had a mark that lasted more than a few moments, it was abuse.

      I’m sure you’re perfect. Some people break a bone and never notice the injury again after it’s healed. Other people, however, suffer pain and limited motion for the rest of their lives, sometimes getting progressively worse as they age. Just because some don’t suffer in perpetuity is no reason to go around breaking people’s bones; and just because you feel you had no lasting damage doesn’t mean it wasn’t abuse.

      There’s also the possibility that you are incorrectly ascribing issues you do have to circumstances other than their actual cause. Or that you are unaware of the way your life has (perhaps) been hemmed in by your insecurities and anxieties, foisted on you by the abusive parenting your loving parents gave you.

    • Melissa Swinamer that’s not discipline that’s punishing something that a child can’t control. Using a belt to discipline is considered abuse

    • Candice Ball Candice Ball says:

      Melissa Swinamer it’s not discipline if it’s something that’s completely out of the child’s control.. the kid isn’t choosing to wet the bed. I hope you don’t reproduce.

    • IT WAS IN THE 80’S BEFORE EVERYONE WAS SUCH A BUNCH OF PUSSY’S. No Need to freak out ppl. We all know kids today are nothing like the ones of 25 or even 35 years ago. So Just chill out and find someone to talk about your feelings ….

    • Maja Black Maja Black says:

      Clinton John Marty you are right, back then it was different. In my generation schools used the strap, my dad’s belt left welts on our asses. It was the issues our generation had that paved the way for future generations to not take it… instead of berating you, these people should be thanking you that they didn’t have to endure it.

    • JJ Young JJ Young says:

      Lol “it was in the 80s” seems like an appropriate response for abusing a child. I murdered someone, but it was in the 60s, so it’s cool.

    • Alison Cowan Alison Cowan says:

      Maja Black Except he doesn’t want to be thanked for helping to end it because he’s offended that we aren’t perpetuating it.

      Clinton John Marty I used to have a good friend who was beaten at school and at home – for being dyslexic, before the word was coined. He grew up to be an asshole and an addict who didn’t think he was abused, just misunderstood. I lost touch with him decades ago because of his facade of being “fine”. I do hope he eventually found someone to talk about his feelings, just like I hope you do – because it matters, whether you think it does or not.

    • Anita Rivest Anita Rivest says:

      Wow that’s cruel. Many kids wet the bed and it isn’t because they want to… or because they are being bad and need to be belted

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