Cellphone Secrecy is Destroying the Trust in my Relationship
I would like some advice please on a very sensitive issue in my relationship. My boyfriend keeps his cellphone locked and out of reach. To me this is an immediate ‘red flag’ he’s hiding something or someone.
A brief history about us; there was some betrayal months ago but we worked through it and decided to move forward. Along the way it became a sick game to get revenge and hurt him the way he hurt me. I know that is wrong, immature, juvenile, and only made us toxic. This weekend I asked to see his phone, he refused and after a lot of persisting he held it and would flip through things quickly for me to see.
I keep my phone unlocked and laying around, he can answer it or look at anything anytime. I believe that’s how things should be in a relationship.
He can say he’s not hiding anything all he wants but with actions like that I can’t believe him or move forward.
Am I asking for too much by being completely open with me, especially considering our past I need that.
I’m curious how others feel about locked up cell phones.