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Dear house moms/wives pt 2

Thanks for all the amazing comments on my post yesterday aboit lazy stay at home moms.

I should have said parent!
Props to stay at home Dads!

I am happily married! I work 50-90 hrs a week and my children have never been in child care.

I work for myself so I do have the advantage of taking my child(ren) to work with me.
As an entrepreneur I work many more hours than 40.
My hubby works about 35-40 hrs.

Never has he come home to a dirty house. Maybe a handful of times there’s been stuff on a surface that’s new and not put away yet.

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If I have not had time to make dinner, I make sure it is picked up or delivered for us.

My child(ren) are well mannered, we’ll adjusted, beautiful people. They have been raised with boundaries and dicipline and love. I can take them anywhere with zero issues. They are very well behaved and I get many compliments on most outings.

My hubby takes out garbage, mows the lawn, does things like Christmas lights and moves furniture at my request.
Never do I ands him to take care of the home cleaning wise or food wise. Other than can you grab eggs on your way home.
He buys me lots of gifts and rubs me to sleep every night as he knows how hard I work.

So if you are a stay at home parent and you can’t cook, clean, and educate your child then you’re lazy!
I stand by my statement.

If you think my view is from a time long ago, then why the hell are you a stay at home parent at all?

Get a job or do your job!

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  1. Good for you! Lucky your life works for you. Too bad it doesn’t for everyone else.

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  2. Who made you God?

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  3. Terri Bee Terri Bee says:

    Mom shaming take 2… just wondering, does it make you feel better to put others down? You’re a bully and I stand by that statement

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    • Shay Renay Shay Renay says:

      What Terri said.

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    • Mac Simm Mac Simm says:

      Its a fascade. She has to do something to make herself feel better. So she points out everything wrong in other peoples lives, to elevate herself.
      No one has a perfect life, perfect marriage, perfect kids. We all have struggles. Meeting those struggles head on is the best way to find resolution, but its difficult. Sometimes its easier to complain about other peoples lives and ignore our own.

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    • I wonder if she is allowed to say more than “yes master. As you wish, master”. Poor kids…

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    • Mac Simm Mac Simm says:

      She needs to get a handle on aspiring for perfection thats unattainable. Its unrealistic. No doubt shes frustrated. If she does not become ‘consciencely aware of the burden’ of whats going on, she will find her whole life passed her by.
      Yes she had a perfectly clean house, nagged her kids to be perfect. When its all said and done the kids wiĺ grow up and leave and time was wasted on perfect.

      Nice day out? To hell with the dishes in the sink, socks laying around, garbage not taken out. Give yourself permission to forget the rigid rules and schedule Go out and enjoy life with all of its imperfection. Free yourself of unreal expectations!

      Catch up on dishes etc on Monday!

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    • Amen!!! I’d rather bring my kids to the park then do dishes. If you visit and you don’t like my dirty dishes then get out my house. My kids come first. Just because I’m a stay at home mom dont mean I need to spend 7 hours cleaning. My family comes first. Shame on those who bully others. I teach my kids everyday that bullying is something I will not stand by. Now I’m seeing adults bullying other adults….not cool. :/

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    • “Bully” what are you 5? Grow up , shes entitled to her views.

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    • LuckyMe Chan LuckyMe Chan says:

      How is she an bully?

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    • If you cant handle a persons point of view ,that my dear is your problem not the person making the point . Just because you dont agree with it isnt her being a bully. That is why our world is falling apart!

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    • Anna Denby Anna Denby says:

      Apparently no one needs to put her on a pedistool because she has seemed to do that for herself lol!

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    • Talking about how wonderful she is and if you can’t do all the wonderful things she does you are lazy. That’s a bully. An ignorant one. Many people don’t recognize ignorance and I see we found a prime example in you Timera Saffin. It takes all kinds.

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  4. Here is your gold star ⭐️!

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  5. You work 90 hours a week? Hubby works 40? Aren’t you people exhausted? Quit playing the rat race. If combined you need 130 hours of work a week that is insane. No way should a family need to work that much. When do you have time for each other or the kids? Max combined work hours should be 80 and even then that’s high. While I applaud you for having a clean home, you need time to relax and enjoy your home – cut back on some expenses so you can work less and enjoy your time/kids/family more.

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    • Perhaps it is not for the money but rather the love of the job. She said she is an entrepreneur and works for herself. Often people who love what they do and work for their own business work longer hours to make it work, not for the money.

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    • Aly Marie Aly Marie says:

      When someone says entrepreneur and they’re a stay at home mom, I think Marketing Schemes. Probably like It Works or something lol

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    • Doesn’t sound like a healthy family life how can you work that much and still have time for kids ? Probably pay for a house cleaner and stuff

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    • I’d rather spend time with my kid. Money was never the priority for me though. Kids grow up too darn fast. Money can always be made.

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  6. You sound like you have no real time for your family

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  7. Aren’t you just a special special human.

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  8. Well la de dah aren’t you Mrs Perfect. So kind of you to assume every families situation is exactly like yours. And so extra kind of you to assume the whole world should do.exactly as you do. Read between the lines people Mrs Perfect isn’t really that happy.

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  9. Must be nice. Some of us are single with health issues and don’t always have the power of movement nor energy.
    You’re fortunate in your situation, but to downgrade others is cruel.
    I’m not on assistance or anything and am blessed to even have 1400 a month to live on between my child tax and child support.
    The struggle is real.

    I used to live your life. It changed and changed fast. I was also a business owner, and when my partner and I split up, I was left, about 70000 debt if you include the truck.

    Try living on 14000 a month with the stress that created when you health is not allowing you to work and you have 3 children.

    Yet, I make it month to month.

    I, personally, see you as obnoxious and trying to put others down. We will see how you feel a couple of years when the perfect life shambles … I would not wish it on anyone, but your bragging and comments will bite you in the ass one day.

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  10. Jessica Boz Jessica Boz says:

    The most unhappy people are the ones who pretend to have it all together.

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  11. That’s awesome. I applaud hard working parents who manage their career and still make time for their kids, keep them fed and clean. My mom did it, others can do it. My mom worked like a dog, never made any excuses or ever claimed her life was too tough and we were dirt poor. Kudos to OP. Didn’t read anything from yesterday but agree with OP. Keep in mind that everyone’s situation is different but still you are the key to your own life and choices. Make them wisely.

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    • Mac Simm Mac Simm says:

      The problem here is life is also to be enjoyed… lifes moments.
      Is she working to live or living to work. If its the latter, thats sad. Wheres the quality in life?

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    • If you love what you do, it isn’t really work. Some people are driven and it is the only thing that makes them happy. Others don’t want to work like this and would rather have families, etc. But ultimately the choice is yours how you live your life. I don’t get from OP that she feels deprived, she is making a point that while she works hard she still manages to keep her home organized, kids clean, etc. It’s all in how someone prioritizes.

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  12. Mac Simm Mac Simm says:

    Your life is a fascade. You try project the appearance of perfection, when its anything but. Your slamming others on how they do things and pointing out how well your life is going, is just to try to elevate yourself.

    Think about it. If your life was as together as you decribed, why are you not off enjoying it? Instead you’ve taken the time out of your perfect life and you’re on here b!tching about other peoples lives.

    Focus on your own life and problems. Go find out why you’re so unhappy. You’re not fooling anyone.

    https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-illusion-of-a-perfect-life-and-why-so-many-people-think-they-need-one-fiff/

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  13. Wow princess aren’t you and you family the picture of perfection! I would hold off on all that judgement if I were you cause glass houses shatter! Everyone has the right to live their lives the way they want as long as they are not hurting others. Some parents want to enjoy raising their children and so they stay at home, big deal if their dishes aren’t done or laundry by a certain time or to your standards. Does it affect you or your life? If not, what is your issue? You should just zip your lips and let people live their lives, raise their children, work… Whatever without you trying to shame them. Obviously even working 80 hours a week, keeping your house and children perfect, you still have too much time on your hands to try and shame and judge others.

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  14. I sure hope this was written ‘tongue in cheek’, otherwise it’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve read in a long time. Let’s have a little look at your piece of ‘fiction’ you’ve posted here. Some weeks you work 90 hours – which means you must work 7 days a week 13 hours a day. With children, I don’t expect you’d get to work before 8 a.m. and you’d have to work till 9 p.m. to get those hours. Home by 9:30 p.m. would likely mean you put your kids to bed immediately so they can get up at 7:30 to head off to work with you again? I guess your dinner for your husband (who is home by 5:00??) gets miraculously cooked by itself and the house gets cleaned the same way while you are away? Every day for 7 days… Where is the family time? How do the kids learn about relationships if they just kiss their dad hello/good night on the way to bed after being at your work all day? And where is their childhood, their swimming lessons, their time in the park and playing with other kids? If this truly is your life, I feel profound sadness for all of you, especially since you seem to think this constitutes a healthy family life

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  15. Wow!! I would love for you to come visit me and trip over the dust bunny at my front door! Get your effing head out of your GOLD PLATED ASS!

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  16. I think it’s great that you have the perfect kids, husband, job and life! I applaud anyone that can make it these days! Unfortunately not everyone has been blessed with that type of perfect! Honestly I wish more people were! There are factors that come into play in everyone’s life, sometimes are beyond a persons control! Health issues, not being able to find the perfect husband, having kids with disabilities, and so on! I get where your coming from and agree to an extent but everyone’s situation is different 🙂

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  17. Katy Yorke Katy Yorke says:

    OP How ’bout you climb off of your high horse for a while. You do realise children aren’t trophies, ya? I’m glad you stayed anonymous. Coward.

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    • Katy Yorke Katy Yorke says:

      They willingly work that way so other people can raise their children. Ugh. So many things wrong here.
      Unless, of course, it’s all bullshit and meant to inspire the ire of REAL people.

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  18. Mac Simm Mac Simm says:

    One of the hardest things to do is look inward and really take a look at yourself. Been there done that.
    Its a process. Change what you can, whatever is making you unhappy. Accept those things you can’t control or change.

    Trust me, you’ll be alot happier fir it and so will your children.

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  19. Rose colored glasses.

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  20. Get out the popcorn, season two of Mom Shaming starts NOW!

    Good for you that you can manage to get all that and then some accomplished. Not every Mother or Father out there is trying to out-do the other stay at home parents.
    Is my house Sparkling from top to bottom? Heck no! Is there some nights I forget to preplan supper & run around with my head cut off trying to figure something out, yep–more times than I like to count. Do I sometimes leave the house work for the next day, or the day after that because I just don’t have the energy to do it. Alllll the time, my house is lived in, memories are made each and every single day, my child isn’t going to remember the dirty dishes in the sink, or the mountain of laundry that I need to catch up on. She’s going to remember the memories that are made together, the messes we make when trying new experiments, or baking cookies together. These are the memories that will last a lifetime.

    As long as children are fed, clothed and have a safe roof over their heads, then why shame one parent for doing or not doing something that they label as lazy?

    Side note: Right now at this very moment, I’m having my child sit in her bedroom and watch Netflix, while I take a moment to herself. It’s currently 11:38 am, she’s and myself is still in her pj’s, hair unbrushed, dirt on her face from the night before! While I sit here on Facebook when I should be in my kitchen scrubbing the floors, am I a horrible, lazy parent? I don’t think so, I’m human, still learning to balance Motherhood, being a wife and having time to myself, 9 years later.

    So to all of you Shoutout Parents, weather your a single mom/dad, stay at home parent, or working 90 plus hours a week, sit back and enjoy life. Take a minute to yourself–Happy Sunday all 🙂

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  21. Mom shaming! You’re a bully!

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  22. And when do you possibly have time for your children? When their asleep?

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  23. With your list of perfections, I’m certain “personality” is at the bottom and conceited/bragger is at the top.

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  24. The award for: making others feel like shit, goes to you! “You like me, you really really like me!”

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  25. Amber Dawn Amber Dawn says:

    Judge, and you shall be judged. You don’t know what people are going through. Karma.. come talk to us in a few years when your completely burnt out.
    And I second what Jessica Boz said… “the most unhappy people are the ones who pretend to have it all together”.. no wonder you’re on here shaming and judging people….

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  26. “or pick up food or get it delivered” Pretty easy when you don’t have to cook or clean up after.Your kids will rebel aganst you as soon as they can,guaranteed.Life won’t be so great for you then.What a shame you are always working and not spending quality time with your children.You sound like a pretentious real estate agent(house seller) I’m glad my girlfriends are nothing like you, no doubt you have aquantance friends but no real friends. Good luck to you in your perfect world. Personally I love my chaotic one, but each to their own.

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    • Maybe her kids won’t rebel, but they certainly will fall into the pattern of being work aholics who obsess about a clean home and don’t really have time to do any family fun things with their kids (her potential grandkids).

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  27. You probably have a screwed up view of your family’s home life. I wouldn’t be surprised if your kids all need mental health counselling when they finally get out of your stressful environment. Nobody is perfect, and since you think you all are – you are most definitely NOT.

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  28. It never fails to amaze me how people feel a sense of superiority over others and just cannot mind their own business. Create better souls people.

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  29. Mac Simm Mac Simm says:

    The ‘appearance of’, yes. Shes clearly unhappy as hell.

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  30. Sometimes it’s okay to say, “f this shit” and leave the dishes, the laundry, the dusting to go do something you love…like living. Housework doesn’t go anywhere, and you can do it later…maybe even with extra hands. Life isn’t about being perfect. Everyone does it different. Good for those perfect ones that can do it all, and good for those that don’t care to.

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    • Kids don’t care if the house is dusted.. pretty sure they would rather have parents home – or taking them to the lake – rather than parents who work a million hours per week then spend the other time cleaning the house.

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  31. Taralee Anne Taralee Anne says:

    And there’s also a lot of value to doing domestic things like cooking instead of having people deliver it. As well there is value to actually spending time with your kids. Children Learn about family and work life balance from you. Just because you aren’t lazy doesn’t mean you’re teaching them all good things by being a workaholic.

    The breakdown of family in our society because of people working too much is, in my opinion, one of the biggest problems around us today.

    There’s lazy parents, absolutely, but being over worked and too busy isn’t good either.

    Good job to those who have an excellent work life balance and teach their children to do the same!

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  32. How is it anyones place to judge a parent on how they raise THEIR children? If you havn’t notice there isn’t a manual which means people can raise THEIR children how they feel is right. As long as the children are being taken care of and being loved, thats all that matters

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  33. Sounds like u got life figured out then hey? Don’t worry about how anyone else parents but yourself.

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  34. Drazz RG Drazz RG says:

    Well aren’t you just the most perfect piece of absolute garbage? You work hard and your house is clean and your kids are good. That’s awesome but you’re still a judgmental, pot-stirring beeeeeotch. Really great role model for those angel children of yours. I hope they resent the shit out of you someday. C U Next Tuesday.

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  35. The best thing to do with this Mrs. Perfect, is, don’t comment.

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  36. Aly Marie Aly Marie says:

    Come out come out wherever you are Op 😉 if youre so ballsy, why hide behind an anon cover? Damn keyboard warriors these days.

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  37. Do you want a freakin medal or something??? When I worked I had more energy than when I stayed at home. If you’ve never stayed home longer than freakin mat leave than stfu!! Seriously you have no damn idea!!

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  38. Marc Cornies Marc Cornies says:

    So apparently if you have your shit together and have a happy home life like the OP, that’s not acceptable to these Bat Shit Crazies commenting. Jealous much?

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    • Becki Pound Becki Pound says:

      I would love to see the baggage she carefully left out of her oh so perfect picture. Everyone has it

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    • Marc Cornies Marc Cornies says:

      Hey, if it works for them than that’s their dynamic. Not everyone is a struggler in life.

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    • Becki Pound Becki Pound says:

      Usually people brag cuz they struggle. Imagine being home with your kids while working 50 to 90 hours a week as she claims. Is she ignoring her kids for work or exaggerating the hours. People r careful to leave out the parts that look bad but it seemed all about her and her kids behaviour in which we don’t actually have proof of it could be her own dellusions. But hey she wanted to anonymously post so no one checked up to see the woman behind such a bullying type message

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    • Marc Cornies Marc Cornies says:

      The gist of her post is that she believes a stay at home mom should have all the time she needs to keep the house in order. Because that is her full time job. Maybe the women commenting in this post have bad time management skills. Or as the poster said, are just lazy. Don’t care if their house is dirty. Eat mcdonalds 5 days a week. To each there own. But what’s bullying is the have nots attacking her because she has her house in order. However she does it. You have zero proof to prop up your own theory. Don’t be so quick to hit the judgement button.

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    • Lynn Meger Lynn Meger says:

      Marc Cornies – actually the women commenting would like you to realize that a full time job is 40 hrs per week 5 days a week. That means that you get to check out of work after an 8 hour day. SAHP don’t have this option, and anyone who sits in judgement and says that all housework and cooking and child rearing is the responsibility of the SAHP needs to have their priorities re-examined and maybe take a step back to do some objective evaluation.

      Any spouse who would expect this from a SAHP won’t have a happy household for long.

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    • Marc Cornies Marc Cornies says:

      Lynn Meger if only you read the post instead of playing your fem nazi card you’d understand the poster was complaining about SAHP who don’t do jack. And apparently this poster is very happy with their dynamic. Maybe you need to take a step back.

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    • Lynn Meger Lynn Meger says:

      Marc Cornies – you missed her FIRST post apparently. I however did not.

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    • I can tell you 100% if she is working all those hours with her business, she is a liar. I run a business 7 days a week, and there is no possible way I could have done this with children. A legit business has a lot of paperwork on top of all the grunt work. Sales appointments.
      This woman is a liar at best and of course it would be a man defending her….

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  39. What ever happened to living your life happily the way you want, and letting others live their lives happily the way they want?
    You’re happy! That’s super!
    I’m happy! My husband is happy! My kids are happy! That’s also super!
    I don’t need to go around talking about how perfect my family is in my eyes, to make myself feel good, or others feel poorly.
    Why can’t we all just live and let live?
    My goodness

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  40. Melissa Thibeault

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  41. Jennye Blain Jennye Blain says:

    I call BS. I used to work 60 to 70 hours a week and when I got home I barely had enough time to eat and sleep, let alone take care of kids and do housework. 80-90 hours a week is over 12 hour days, 7 days a week. If you sleep 8 hours, that leaves less than 4 hours to do everything else. Clean house, cook supper, do laundry, clean the car, shower and personal hygiene. If that back rub your husband gives you takes at least 10 minutes, that means you spend almost 3% of your remaining free time getting a massage. When do you get to see your kids? How much time do you get to spend with your husband? Do you have any friends? Do you spend any time with your extended family? Do you ever leave your house?

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  42. Erin Julien Erin Julien says:

    As long as your kids are fed and taken care of, I couldn’t give 2 shits if you work, stay home, or ride magical unicorns all day long. Not my business, not yours either.

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  43. Cat May Cat May says:

    LMAO I hope you aren’t “educating” your kids on math.

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  44. OP is a hero. Haters should take notes.

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  45. Becki Pound Becki Pound says:

    Pretentious bragging and most likely full of shit! Her kids probably get smacked at the first sign of dirt due to her ocd and she probably sells Avon and isn’t doing well so has to work that many hours with young kids in the car trying to make sales. Think what’s underneath all this so called glamour

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  46. Becki Pound Becki Pound says:

    Ignoring children without childcare for 50 to 90 hours a week to work is child abuse

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  47. Mia Iglesias Mia Iglesias says:

    I am not lazy. I am just busy enjoying life

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  48. Haha. In the perfect life you’re trying to present, you never once mentioned anything ‘fun’, just order, control and schedule.

    You have it all figured out, or so you think. Aren’t you the one that said in an earlier post, your head was ready to IMPLODE just thinking of these others wives, parents.

    Deep down inside you’d like to be like them, wouldn’t you? Thats why you diss them.

    You created this for yourself and you’re still not happy.
    Go get councelling.

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  49. How about, if you don’t like the comments you are getting on your outdated (by 50 years) opinions, you just keep your opinions to yourself or shut your mouth and listen to some of the things being said. You might actually learn something useful. Like “if you can’t say anything nice shut the fuck up!” Or “treat others how you would like to be treated” and keep your judgements to yourself cause as you can see “judge not, lest ye be judged”!!

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  50. Well – I worked all my life, sometimes two jobs, raised kids, and cleaned house from top to bottom wether it needed it or not once a week. I had a husband that didn’t give two shits if the lawn was cut. I threw my hands up and decided to do stuff I wanted wether i had help or not. I gardened, preserved, went back to school, sewed, made Halloween costumes, and cut the grass. I made myself a fire pit and peaceful place. I hammered coat hooks into the floor and told them to hang their coats up, might as well look organized even if they were on the floor. There’s no perfection – just living with what ya got, and enjoy.

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  51. I hate that word Gabrielle, yet it seems to fit here.

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  52. Must be nice to live in a world of perfection, I didn’t know it even existed..

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  53. Amanda Kerr Amanda Kerr says:

    Whoop dee doo, you want a medal or something? I promise you that nobody other than you gives a fuck about your family you brag about on a shoutout page.

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  54. I feel sorry for your kids? Are they even allowed to play?

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  55. Melissa Lee Melissa Lee says:

    You don’t make dinner every night? You get food DELIVERED to your house? How could you do that to your kids? Oh well. You’re probably trying your best #knowbetterdobetter

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  56. People who think that highly of themselves always fall the hardest. Pride is fine but modesty is better miss soapbox

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  57. Lynn Meger Lynn Meger says:

    You’re outdated because you seem to think that SAHP should never have a day off from their jobs, never have breaks, and never expect help from their partners for basic living.

    Glad you’re Martha Stewart and it works for you. But don’t use your standards to judge anyone else.

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  58. You are something special aren’t you?!?

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  59. Ahhh, lucky us to have you out there keeping up the standards.

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  60. set the bar anywhere you like, but try to make me look bad for not trying to kill myself to meet your insane standards and I will beat you to death with it. Get a grip……there are many people who are far more content (obviously, as they don’t feel the need to be putting others down like you). If you were so happy and content you would be like the little birdie in the steaming pile of shit on a freezing cold day with a cat nearby, you would shut up and enjoy what you have and not try to measure anyone against your life. This is a post to say you are soooo much better than the ones who have not the perfect everything. I would rather have a messy house and happy kids any day.

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  61. Jen Pratt Jen Pratt says:

    You should be thanking your lucky stars everyday that you have such great health that all that is possible.
    Many, many people are not that blessed, and yet you judge them. Good for you! You sure are something special!
    When you get knocked down from your high horse someday, I hope you remember this moment and Karma.

    And to all the moms out there – just dismiss whatever this woman says. Do your best and never mind the judgements.

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  62. Thank you for putting this on here. That is wonderful. It makes me ill when people say stay home parenting is so hard that don’t have time to do all those things. I do believe it’s how you were raised. Kids who see hard working parents, or non idle parents have more motivation to do things.
    This is not woman shaming or parenting shaming, it’s just showing that this is possible.
    Lazy= defensive people.
    You’re doing an amazing job. Don’t listen to the haters on here. High 5 to you.

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  63. I’m surprised you had time to type this, or shower, or brush your teeth.

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