How to get child support recalculated?
Over thirteen years ago I was married and living in Ontario. My marriage was a bit rocky but I was willing to work it out with my husband after I caught him cheating on me.
During the summer I got word that my Grand-mother’s mental state was worsening and I decided to come to Edmonton to spend the summer with my family. During that time I found out I was pregnant. Excitedly, I called my husband to tell him the happy news! (His last words to me) “I don’t want to have anything to do with you.” I was devastated to say the least!
I was left with only two suitcases of belongings and I had no choice but to move back with my parents. I looked into a divorce and of course child support a year later. I went to trial and the judge was generous and order my ex-husband to pay me $500 in child support and $500 in spousal support a month. Reason for the judgement was because my ex was a coward and wouldn’t keep in contact with his lawyer. Basically ran like a coward. He didn’t need be in court just stay current with his lawyer. Of course I never saw a dime of it.
Fast forward five years and I get a summons in the mail that my ex suddenly wants custody of our child that he never met. Claiming I was the one that cheated on him and was in denial of the paternity of our child. I never did, of course! DNA came back positive that it was his child.
Again, I went to trail but this time the judge re nagged on the previous judgement taking everything away except $1000 for the year I couldn’t work to take care of our son and $197 a month in child support because my ex only worked part-time.
Oh ya and as for him trying to get custody, what a joke! I didn’t mind he got to know his father except as soon as he found out that our son was diagnosed with Autism he again vanished, and didn’t have any contact with his lawyer.
Eight years later, my ex rarely pays his child support, he only pays when maintenance threatens to take his drivers licence away. I did some research and found out he remarried, had another son and went college. He now is an account manager at a huge company and $3000 in debt to child maintenance.
As for my son and I, barely making ends meet. I took the initiative to go back to school so that I can support my son and I better. Doing crappy retail jobs just doesn’t cut it and I wanted some kind of future for my son. What my ex didn’t inquire about was his son is high functioning Autistic and the greatest kid ever, I’m a lucky mom to have him.
I’m asking all of you, how do I go about going back to court to get my child support recalculated on a next to nothing budget?
Also, one other note…when you live in different provinces, maintenance never seems to know what to do. Why does it take so long when we have e-mail to correspond? When I inquire here about why my ex is in arrears, it takes weeks to “e-mail” Ontario and get any information back. They gave me an excuse that they didn’t know where he worked and asked if I knew, of course I didn’t until I did a quick google search and found his linkedin account. Rocket science!
I appreciate any advice you can give me, and thanks for reading my rant!