How to save a broken relationship?
I’ve been with my spouse for 2 1/2 years, we’ve known eachother for over 10. We have a child together, who is still an infant.
I recently found out my spouse had a relationship with another woman online, said he loved her, told her we were separated and I was crazy and a terrible mother. When confronted he just treated me like I was delusional. He claims he ended it, thatt it meant nothing and it was no big deal. He definitely minimized the situation. At first he talked about leaving but stated he didn’t want to. So I told him let’s work on our relationship then.
Obviously something is lacking if he had the need to go elsewhere. He won’t attend counseling at this time, he won’t discuss any aspect of our relationship, I feel hurt, and disconnected from him.
Other than counseling, how do I save our relationship? How do I move on from what he’s done. I don’t bring it up. I don’t talk about it, but it still on my mind and still wreaking havoc in my mind and heart. I know lots will say to leave but I’m not ready to give up yet.