How to tell my spouse
I think I am ready to tell my husband it’s over. Every time I try, we end up giving it one more try. One more. One more. But it isn’t working and I hate seeing that look on his face, he looks so broken and he keeps telling me we are doing ok.
Maybe we are ok. But I am not happy. We have 22 years and 2 kids together. We own a business together. We are together almost all day but I feel like we aren’t a couple. I know things change with time. We are not hormone driven teenagers who couldn’t keep their hands off each other. But things are supposed to change a bit, not completely.
We are good work partners. I run the store and he does deliveries. We discuss work related issues only, because that is what work is about. At home, we plan our kids activities, budgetting, bills – and we talk about work.
We have been seeing marriage counsellor for 2 years now. We no longer have fun together. He plays video games in his spare time while I tried them and hate them. I enjoy reading, music, which he refuses to show interest. We worked on finding things to do together such as volunteering, paint nights – he hates every suggestion and even forgets to show up. He forgot to show up at the last 2 therapist appointments.
Date nights? Money is tight so I don’t expect lavish gifts. But just saying happy anniversary or a quiet dinner and netflix at home? He thinks we don’t need it. Because we are already together.
Most of all, we went from a great sex life to once every few months. And only because I initiate it.
He says he loves me, he finds me very attractive, we have a great life together.
But I just feel like we are partners, in work and in child raising. Romance isn’t there. Being a couple isn’t there.
I think it isn’t working. He says I want the impossible. Am I greedy? Do I break up a business and a family? I am so confused.