I feel so hurt
I feel hurt. But maybe I am wrong so please tell me your thoughts. I would like to fix this situation.
My brother’s common law girlfriend is from another culture Phillipino and they have a 5 year old son.
The problem is occasions. Whenever I invite them, they are super busy and need 2-3 weeks notice if not more.
But they have a celebration and not say anything then get mad when I am not there.
Her sister has a birthday party today. I had no idea. Last week I sent a facebook message to say happy birthday, she replied Thank you and nothing else. How am I supposed to know they decided to have a birthday party – and at her friend’s home?
My brother called me now to say the party was today and they are offended I never even showed up.
I said that I was not invited. He said in their culture they don’t invite. I respect their culture but what about repsecting me?
I told him that yes, they don’t invite. They just expect everyone shows up. But not even a call or text? How am I supposed to know there is a celebration? Date, time, and even address?
My nephew’s birthday is next week. So my brother said me being rude and if I don’t apologize, I am not allowed to come. I am so hurt, he is kicking me out of my only nephew’s birthday. Do I apologize even though I feel I did not do anything wrong? Just so I can be there with my kids.
I thought of that but it is not fair and I know next time it will repeat. Because they never tell me there is something planned, when or where so yes I will not show up again. Not being mean but I can’t be somewhere if I don’t know about it.
I called my mom and she agrees. She did not know either and dis-invited to her grandson’s birthday. She says it takes a minute to at least send a text and tell us there is an event.
It is not about culture difference but lack of respect.
Am I wrong?