I’m the OP about VAC not helping spouses. I should include some more info
This post is an update to: http://soyeg.club/rant-vac-ignoring-families-effected/
My spouse has been begging for help. So for those of you assholes making it out that he has to need it and I didn’t matter while my spouse was still a CF member. My spouse has been BEGGING for help and constantly dismissed.
As for me not mattering while he was in obviously has no fucking clue how it works. You are the reason so many of us spouses don’t reach out. Because we get nothing but negative feed back when we are asking for help. I KNOW there’s lots of Bets and spouses on here hence why I’m posting. They can maybe help me get info! Obviously she or he didn’t always have it. And maybe no one realizes it because it was hidden. He/she released due to it coming to the surface! Before you comment being a douche maybe you should figure out how it works! I say he/she because I don’t need him/her to feel even worse thinking it might be about them. We as spouses try to avoid that because in any case that’s something we want to avoid.
When it comes down to this we as spouses SHOULD matter when he/she has already told VAC case manager many times how it’s effecting me. THAT is when I should matter! Ffs I’m asking for help. I’ve been to psychologists in AHS who constantly say they have no experience in this stuff and I need to be seen at the same place as my spouse where they know what he/she is dealing with and can help me in the same way as them.
Maybe I neeed a couple positive comments from others to help lift me up a little bit. At this point I don’t care if it’s a stranger or not, I just need a positive comment. So I’d you don’t have one. Keep it to yourself!