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Infidelity

I’m seeing someone who has a history of cheating and ruining their relationships because of it. They’ve confessed this has happened and are sincere that they have changed their ways.

My concern is that I have kids and I don’t want them to get hurt if this falls apart.

Cana person change this behavior or is it something that never stops?

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  1. Once a cheater always a cheater

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  2. Yes , a person can change for the right reasons …best the person gets counselling and together couple counselling.

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  3. Are his initials DH? Run.

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  4. Marion Clark Marion Clark says:

    Not in my experience…….once a cheater always a cheater……..just ask my last husband!

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  5. It’s a scam and back door..you will fall for his/her “sincerity” then when it happens he/she will be like I warned you..can’t help it..I’d honestly walk your opening yourself up to some serious hurt

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  6. You’ll always wonder. Always. Everything he does will be suspicious. Can you live with what your thoughts are going to be?

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  7. If you see the smallest red flag…RUN! Don’t fool yourself, and don’t try to talk yourself out of those gut feelings you may feel.
    That said, SOMETIMES a cheater will stay a cheater, so be aware, protect your children first!!!

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  8. Trust is a funny thing. Once it is broken, it is nearly impossible to regain. It is also the basis of any relationship.

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  9. Don’t fall for it.

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  10. Win Chan Win Chan says:

    If you have to ask…

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  11. M Lissa Sch M Lissa Sch says:

    People don’t really change a lot. Cheaters usually repeat that mistake because they have weak traits that’s not so easily fixed, even if they feel sorry for it and want to change. If it was one time, one relationship kind of deal but I’m getting the vibe that this happens in several relationships.. It’s not worth it. Hold out for someone with a stronger moral. That won’t be easy – a lot of people cheat nowadays. You can give it a try, but hold off on moving in together and letting the kids get too attached. Let’s see how they do after a year – you’ll see their colours by then, most likely.

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  12. In my experience, once a cheater, always a cheater.
    You’re either always going to be wondering or they’re actually going to do it.
    You said it yourself, they have a history of ruining multiple relationships….what makes you think you’re any different?
    I’d get out

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  13. Jodi Flatt Jodi Flatt says:

    A shit leopard never changes his shit spots
    – Mr Lahey
    Trailer Park Boys

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  14. Sabrina Bree Sabrina Bree says:

    Cheating is a symptom. Unless they change what causes them to cheat than the chance of them actually changing is slim.

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  15. I don’t believe a cheater is always a cheater and I personally have known people that have cheated that have never cheated again. In my experience tho the cheater has to do a whole lot of soul searching and a lot of work on themselves in order to fix what was broken. If this man has been in one relationship after another and never spent any time alone to self evaluate and reflect I would suspect that history will repeat itself. I 100% believe people can change tho, but they have to do the work to get better.

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  16. Greg Ory Greg Ory says:

    Hahaha! They’ll tell you whatever you want to hear to get in there.

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  17. Once a cheater, always a cheater

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  18. Been there. Walk away and be with someone who respects you and your heart. No one will change for someone else’s benefit. Please don’t go down this road with kids attached.

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  19. Kids first. I would end it.

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  20. it is true dolly but it does happen sone times.out of home when we are unawer then we realise what realy happened un this case what can be done pl explain

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  21. Take it from someone who has gone through it with same man, once a cheater always a cheater. Get yourself and your kids away from him now and fast.

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  22. Cassy says:

    I guess the follow up would be would you want someone to tell you if they were cheating?

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  23. Nope. If that is what he has always done i wouldnt trust it. And especially if kids are involved no way. Dont waste your time.

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  24. Nobody deserves to wonder if their partner will cheat.
    If you have to wonder, you already answered you question!
    Once a cheater always a cheater!

    Find someone else! Your happiness depends on it ❤️ (and your kids too! Lead by example! You deserve so much more! Show them!!!)

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  25. Listen to judge Judy. She is wise.

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  26. Carol Maser Carol Maser says:

    Don’t Believe him…. a leopard never changes his spots!!!

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  27. Scott Gill Scott Gill says:

    Nope. They won’t change. The urges will always be there They will tell you what they think you want to hear. I can tell you this because I’m just like him. I would never survive in a traditional monogamous relationship

    Unless you’re willing to accept being in a ‘consensual non-monogamous’ type relationship, just cut him loose and move on.

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  28. People can always change. Ask yourself if they have given up the mental thought processes that they justified to themselves cheating was ever ok. Ask them the in depth reasons why they cheated on others.

    Were they ever really commited? Does commitment scare them. Just because someone stole a car or did drugs or was an immoral person in the past doesnt mean the will still do those things. What does matter is if they have found self growth and you can tell they are not who they used to be. Our pasts do not define us.

    However i would say you are right to be a little nervous. But if you proceed you need to put that down and focus on growing that relationship and making it strong. It is a hill to overcome.

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