Interested in opinions

ISO Opinions from older people who have never had children.

I am 26 and my husband and I have been married for 3 years and we have confident in our decision to not have kids so i have gone to the doctor to get my tubes tied, however my doctor is hesitant and said I should take the next 6 months to really be sure. So for arguments sake here I am asking the big question.

For those of you who DO NOT have children by choice, do you feel like your life was/ is lacking? Do you feel lonely or sad that you chose or decided not to have children?

*** Please don’t comment about how much you love your kids and they were the best choice you ever made etc etc.***




1 Response

  1. Sue Lynham says:

    I have been married twice and both of my husbands and I agreed that we didn’t want to have children. I have never regretted this decision. It was hard when all of our friends were having children because they kept bugging us to have children too. My thought on this was “misery loves company”. Because we had no children, we paid off our mortgage in 6 years. For 10 years we went every winter to someplace in the sun for 2 or 3 weeks. Our home was quiet and peaceful. We were able to purchase whatever we wanted because both of us had savings above and beyond our RRSPs. We watched our friends “make do” as their children came first. We saw their marriages break up under the strain of trying to work and care for children at the same time. They were struggling to pay all their bills while we were going to concerts, buying a tent trailer to go camping, eating dinner out 2 or 3 times a week, regularly meeting up with friends at bars and restaurants without any advance notice, wearing nice and new clothes, buying a brand new car and generally having a really good life.
    I enjoy meeting the children of friends who are now in their 30s and I get a big kick out of them. But I don’t feel bad about not having my own kids to make friends with. I don’t miss having grandchildren either. My life is peaceful and ordered to suit me as it always has been. I had a high stress job that I couldn’t have done if I had to come home and ride herd on kids too.
    If you have any doubts about having children, you are better off to not have them. Your life will be simpler and easier.


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