I’m a married woman in my 30s my whole life I’ve never found a man I have lusted over like I see other women do.

I have friends that share scantily clad muscle men on their facebooks all the time and I don’t feel anything when I see them except creeped out.

Am I alone in this?



47 Responses

  1. Bill Howatt Bill Howatt says:

    It’s ok, I don’t find men attractive either, it’s totally normal.

  2. You seem kinda…. gay….

  3. Jocelyn Bear Jocelyn Bear says:

    And if you’re gay that’s okay! Lol. Are you attracted to anyone then if you’re not gay??? Maybe you’re just asexual?

    • Jocelyn Bear Jocelyn Bear says:

      I just find this so interesting haha I’ve never heard of this in my life but this is from urban dictionary:

      An asexual is an individual who is is not sexually attracted to either men or women. Important classifications to note:

      Repulsed Asexuals: Asexuals that are opposed to the idea of having sex with any other individual. Some may masturbate to release any sexual tension, though some even find masturbation repulsive.

      Flexible Asexuals: Asexuals that are more open to the idea of having sex and may be willing to have sex for the benefit of a sexual partner. Some flexible asexuals may even enjoy having sex.

      Aromantic Asexuals: Asexuals who have little or no romantic drive. They usually prefer to be single. Some even never experience crushes. Aromantic asexuals are usually repulsed asexuals.

      Romantic Asexuals: Asexuals who have a romantic drive and often have a desire to find a significant other. Romantic asexuals can be either flexible or repulsed. Flexible ones are usually willing to date sexuals and asexuals, repulsed ones usually prefer to date other asexuals when possible. Romantic asexuals are split into a few subcategories.

    • I haven’t heard of these sub-categories before but I’m asexual. I didn’t even know it was a thing until a few years ago.

  4. Hmmm to each their own. Maybe you like a certain kind of man and those hunks aren’t it. I love looking at muscle in photos but only like men with brains in real life.

  5. I’m mostly attracted to personality and other non-physical traits. So I’m indifferent to muscular, scantily clad men if i don’t know them at all.

  6. I just noticed. Only women have responded and she asked for men’s advice, lol. But I think a lot of the women have given great advice!

  7. Rachel Hart Rachel Hart says:

    To each their own, some people find a persons mind and/or personality more attractive than looks and some people just don’t find others to be attractive at all.

  8. Are you bisexual? Or maybe you just don’t find what other people see as attractive, attractive…

  9. me too. he thinks im lying or trying to make him feel good but i really want him. i look at him and want him..

  10. Mal Esther Mal Esther says:

    I didn’t know anyone really “lusted” over completely photoshopped pictures of men OR women!!! No offense OP but your post made me laugh!! Made my day!

  11. Kathy Rybock Kathy Rybock says:

    I personally dont like scantilly clad muscly men either.
    I like attractive men. But theres more to it than that for me

  12. Lisa Lutz Lisa Lutz says:

    Not alone! Never has done anything for me, either. Nothing.

  13. Awe, there’s nothing wrong with you at all. I don’t care to…man-ize either. I don’t find male models sexy…none of that does it for me. I’m attracted to the individual the personality, the mindset, the brain. Looks don’t matter to me. I’m not judging anyone for being attracted to that stuff though…everyone is different! And everyone has different tastes!

  14. I agree. I can find other men good looking, but the only one I feel lust for is my husband. He’s just so wonderful and attentive. Why would I lust after anything else? It’s just subpar product lol.

  15. I’m not a fan of “hot dude” pics cause i don’t find conventional hot attractive. Lumpy greasy over tanned gym rats are not my type lol

  16. Marie says:

    OP… I love your post! You’re definitely Not Alone! – I’m older and have honestly wondered the same thing through life when it comes to girls/women who gush, go wonky and stupid over some guy/any guy —
    There’ve always been good-looking/handsome guys around but what DOES go through the minds of females who pant and drool.? To me it’s like they’re possessed with some teenie-bopper neurological disorder-syndrome or something…
    You’re more normal, decent and sane than you think. Be happy with who you are and that you are the way you are – You really are normal and sane IMHO –

  17. there is nothing wrong with seeing a pic of a fine specimen of a Man.

  18. Amanda Colp Amanda Colp says:

    I have a few single friends and they get boy crazy and i used to be till i meet my man now.i tell my friends i went “blind” as in i dont find other guys attative anymore just my man. Which is great. Thats just me. as other said each to there own

  19. Me too, I don’t really care for the muscle heads you see in the pictures. It’s more funny to me LOL.

  20. What about your hubby? Are you attracted to women?

  21. Jes Woodman Jes Woodman says:

    So …. your married , and you have never thought any man was hot ? What about your husband? Have you never once looked and him and thought “Damn” ? If not I’m so sorry for you .. and him for that matter . If you are offended by the half naked pics of men just scroll past them , nothing saying you have to stop and critique them .. 🙂

  22. Carly Brunet Carly Brunet says:

    It’s not my cup of tea but to each their own.

  23. Candice Ball Candice Ball says:

    So.. is there anything you are attracted to? Or just nothing that All? That kind of makes the difference

  24. I’m the same way. You aren’t taken in by a pretty face that’s all and aren’t the shallow type. You probably are more intrigued by a man’s intellect rather than his physique

  25. I feel what those women feel about the random hot dude, but it usually when my husband does or says something sweet or loving and I get that tingly, ohmygod I’m married to that’ feeling.
    But random guys? Just because of their bodies? No thanks. That’s as creepy as when men post half naked ladies everywhere. People aren’t objects.

  26. Robyn Volk Robyn Volk says:

    I’m pretty sure some one is wacking it to some Photoshopped plastic surgery enhanced model ….

  27. You can still lust over someone without muscles and looks like sexist man alive. It’s to each your own on what turns you on. Every person should feel that in their relationships. It’s amazing.
    And also, I didn’t think that muscles or tattoos is something I would be attracted to but I tell you it’s amazing. He can pick me up with one arm. Love it. And he has the biggest heart too.
    Don’t put yourself in a box. You’ll surprise yourself. ❤️

  28. Kenda Breen Kenda Breen says:

    nope not weird at all

  29. Tim Jacklin Tim Jacklin says:

    different strokes for different folks (pun intended) lol

  30. Marvin Bent Marvin Bent says:

    You will like my love muscle baby…

  31. Cindy Mason Cindy Mason says:

    You aren’t alone. Everyone has a different turn on, for me it is the eyes and pictures never do the eyes justice.

  32. I am the same way. You might be demisexual.


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