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Won a Civil Claim judgement against my douche ex. Couldn’t commit to pay schedule that was ruled by the judge so I’ve had to wait for his pay days. August 1st is when the legal contract is to be paid in full.

So here I am with another short payment today as he can’t pay it all. If any payments were late or missed I could file by desk application and he would owe court costs of an additional $400.00. I truly could have done that in the first month of the order but waited it out as I would have more of a hassle to go through. We are at what I thought was the last payment and he shorts it yet again! Telling me now I wait till yet another payday for the final payment! He has a spending problem indeed but I’m not an option to pay back when you can afford it! We are at $125.00 left owing!

Is it selfish to say if I don’t get the this final payment by the August 1st deadline awarded by a judge that I will file a desk application and it will cost the douche another $400? It’s my time and unnecessary stress for over a year.

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  1. Jenn Brouwer Jenn Brouwer says:

    Tell him that on Aug first you will be doing that no more excuses. I bet he finds the last $125

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  2. Wow douches spreading legs

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  3. Why would you want to cause more hardships for a person that seems to be struggling as it is?

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  4. If hes a douche then what are you if you spent time with him? Why dont you earn your own money and stop leeching off men.

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    • She’s asking to be paid what’s owed to her. As appointed by a judge. That’s not her leeching off of men. That’s a man trying to get away from what he owes her.

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    • And Ramin why don’t you just shut your yap

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    • Kelsey, why would he owe her anything? A man makes his money. If she leaves him, she should leave his money as well.

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    • Michael P. Keaton you don’t even know what he even owes money for so don’t be so quick to judge.

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    • Becki Pound Becki Pound says:

      Cuz women r petty!

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    • If he owed her money for anything legitimate, she would have specified.

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    • Kelsey Fletcher The gynocentrism of judges is widely known. Why does she act so entitled to the wealth of the man? Is he her slave? I think we can figure out the story pretty well with what little information she gave us. She engages into a relationship with a douche bag and when things dont go her way she tries to milk him for all hes got thanks to the sexist courts. But of course according to her he only became a douche bag after they broke up right?

      Women like this are part of the reason men commit suicide far more. To them men are nothing more than work horses for their entitled narcissistic lifestyles.

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    • I have an ex that owes me close to $2000 cuz he was a useless pos that refused to get off his ass and get a job. So no Ramin Mohammad it sounds like he was the fucking leech! You’re pretty quick to judge women though!!!!

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    • Ramin

      How do you know she didn’t cosign for/pay into a down payment on a house or vehicle for him and what the judge ordered him to pay back was what is legally owed to her after a separation?

      By law, anything jointly purchased (house, car, boat, hell even a dog at this current time as they are considered property) during cohabitation or marriage is considered joint assets and therefore must either be sold (and the profits be split equally between parties) and or someone must be paid their half of the purchase (a.k.a bought out of the asset)?

      Until you know specifics you shouldn’t really judge.

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    • It was a civil claim
      Not family law stuff
      Boy you people are dumb

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    • Becki Pound Becki Pound says:

      Useless pos but he owes u? If i love someone and they r struggling I don’t feel right running a tab…..but that’s just me

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    • Considering NONE of us knows the specifics AND it’s also NONE of our business how about the speculation stops?

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    • Ramin Mohammad implement sharia

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    • Ramin Mohammad
      The op said civil court NOT child support. Your reading comprehension skills are seriously lacking.
      Even if the op were talking about child support, they would be entitled to those payments because child support is MANDATORY.

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  5. The bitterness is strong with this one.

    There’s 125 left. LET IT GO!! revenge doesn’t look good on ANYONE

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  6. Sometimes just have to cut your losses

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    • Yup. That is so true if people choose not to help support or pay money they should pay why bother at end of the day karma will catch up … I raise my grand daughter she has three legal guardians on paper all of which state they would step up but choose not to .. she’s taken care of and at end those who don’t can live with the consequences. Cuz we all have them at end of life. I believe. Money the root of all evil

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  7. Susan Csapo Susan Csapo says:

    He can owe you for life glwt

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  8. Is $125 worth it? Breathe out and let it go. Release it and MOVE ON.

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  9. I bet just to get away from you is worth every penny.

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  10. Lol I know how she worded it was shite, but maybe he actually owes her money? My ex owes me $1000 That I LENT to him. Not all women are money greedy cunts…….

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  11. I would go for it. You given him every chance and he’s screwed you every chance. Tell him before you do what you’re going to do and he will likely come up with the money. You owe him nothing at this point. Use the money to celebrate him being out of your life. Woot woot.

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  12. Becki Pound Becki Pound says:

    It’s child support. If u r the main caregiver of the child then cover your shit! Use the cheque as a repayment when tou…as an adult….have paid what you need to. My dad’s these bitches that live off their baby dad’s. If that child is going without cuz u r waiting on someone else’s money u haven’t matured enough to be a parent

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  13. I will always say this, it’s unfortunate when someone does you wrong. But what’s worse is being the one to express or describe someone with derogatory words.

    On a side note. You can keep adding financial pay back To said person but if they haven’t paid anything now it makes no difference adding claims etc so they have to pay more. I always wonder why people even waste their time after a certain point.
    I’d rather be enjoying a peaceful life.

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  14. Mj Mank Mj Mank says:

    Just do what you have to do. Is posting on here going to make him change his mind with you threatening to take it back to court?

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  15. Sometimes it isn’t about the money. It’s about the principle.

    Any decent human being will do what they can in order to pay back monies owed.

    Sounds to me like this fellow has more than enough time to pay this person back and has been avoiding it.

    Since said person has a spending problem it’s clear that he has the cash to pay and simply chooses not too.

    To the OP I say, file the desk application on the first. And if he doesn’t pay that, file another one! Tell him you’ll accept a certified cheque from the bank or an etransfer. Don’t actually speak to this person and let the law do its thing.

    Personally, I would take the loss. Write it off as an act of charity in my mind and move on. It’s not worth the mental stress or time.

    Whatever route you choose to take be sure it’s the right one for you. You do you girl.

    Good luck!

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    • Thanks for being a reasonable person.

      Whenever I read these comment threads I always breathe a sigh of relief that there are still some people with common sense and decency.

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  16. Jody Mitoma says:

    Everything is selfish.

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  17. I’ve spent many years not receiving a penny….my son has grown into a wonderful young man with no resentment…. it’s really not worth the anguish u will cause yourself and children in the end…..sadly some people can and will use the system to their extent….dont let yourself and kids suffer because if it….

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  18. Wow, another baby machine using kids as pay checks. What a shock.

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  19. Never heard of this situation unless you agreed together on own terms aside from court.
    I am going through this myself for a much larger amount … I honestly don’t think your amount is worth the effort or time.
    It’s a horrible situation in any circumstance, as no details are provided.
    I wish you luck either way. Positive vibes from me.

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  20. Kayla Brill Kayla Brill says:

    I love how everyone is telling her to stop being money hungry that she had the kid so she needs to learn how to take care of it on her own. YET NO WHERE IN HER POST IT SAYS ANYTHING ABOUT KIDS!! damn people need to learn how to fuckin read

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    • Exactly. So he doesn’t owe her anything. She needs to get a job.

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    • Kayla Brill Kayla Brill says:

      It’s a civil court matter. Probably borrowed a shit ton of money from her. Said he would give it back and so now he refusing to pony up the money he took in the first place. So YES he actually does owe her

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    • Kayla Brill Kayla Brill says:

      And she probably does have a job. How rude of you to assume such of a person you don’t even know.

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    • I wonder if these assholes stand outside of civil courts telling people to get a job. Civil courts typically deal with damages and loans. If you’re going to borrow money from someone, pay them back. It’s pretty simple. Stop trying to offer excuses for cheapskates because they can’t live up to their responsibilities.

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    • Michael,

      Quit assuming that she is living off what he gives her.

      How do you know it isn’t the other way around and he has to pay back the money he owes her?

      Not all women live off of men, it’s a two way street bud and sometimes it is the woman who is supporting the man.

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  21. Ashley Joe Ashley Joe says:

    Sounds like a gold digger to me.

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  22. Stop playing his games. You have a child or children to raise do you not? The expenses for raising them don’t stop.

    Slam him with everything you can. He can man up. Dont give a damn if he works at Mac Donalds. He has obligations. He needs to meet them.

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  23. You are freaking bitter over $125 still owed from a court judgment. Jesus I wish I had that problem. 13(ish) years ago I was in a relationship that ended, my ex owed (owes) me 10k. I was 4000 km away from home. The day before I started home my ex & his parents promised that he would pay me back. I’ve seen $75. I would love to see this money but you know what I’m happier having the cheating loser momma’s boy out of my life. Cut your losses.

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  24. Yea real smart, the guy can’t pay what he owes so tack on $400. Fuck you’re dumb. Your rant makes you sound like the selfish one.

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  25. Dave Valente Dave Valente says:

    More sides to this story I would say. Op is lookin for a happy face or at least you tried sticker

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  26. Rule 1: Never co-sign for anyone. Having a co-signer already says this person is a risk.

    Rule 2: Keep everything separate until you are married.

    Rule 3: Never loan people money with an expectation of getting it back. If you do get it back, great, but you’re not a bank. Consider all money leaving your wallet as a gift.

    These are general rules and may not apply to the OP but if you follow them they’ll prepare you to never allow someone to take advantage of you.

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  27. $125.00 Not worth it seriously. …but you’ll make him pay $400 to get your $125 . Seriously don’t do it. Talk to him if you can and reason with him if you need the money that bad. If you are not that strapped for cash maybe just let it go or he can pay later like next pay.

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  28. Ignore all these asshat comments! U went to court and they ruled he owes u for whatever it is that ppl are assuming. Let him know if he doesn’t pay u ur going to the courts again! U shouldn’t have to hound ppl for $$$ they owe u!!

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  29. CIVIL. Civil claim. Nowhere does it say a thing about children or child support. Read, people.

    Also, even if it was about child support, how about we hold BOTH parents accountable and responsible for the children they help to create and not demonize the custodial parent for expecting the other party to take care of their child.

    It costs, on average, over $1000/month to raise a child in Canada…a cost that the custodial parent has to pay regardless if the other parent contributes or not. At no point is the custodial parent able to not feed, clothe and shelter their child…or not transport them, pay for childcare, etc…and if they aren’t meeting those BASE NEEDS, the child will not be remaining in their care…

    FFS, people are selfish.

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  30. Dario Tomada Dario Tomada says:

    Wow..all over $125… If $125 makes that big of a diff in your life, there’s bigger issues. Pretty cruel to drag him back and tag another $400 onto the debt, he obviously can’t afford it…petty, vengeful. Get a grip.

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  31. Terry Curtis Terry Curtis says:

    Do it….he is trying to control you by only paying the amount he wants to pay……making you wait
    He is a douch…

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  32. Good luck. I too have an ex husband who continually likes to use his excess money and free time to make my life a living hell.
    I need a top notch lawyer…. suggestions???

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  33. Ryan Evans Ryan Evans says:

    Try getting yourself a job instead of being a lazy parasite

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