Regarding the disappointed hamper donating family
In response to the family that was disappointed that the response to their charity wasn’t appropriate, I’ve been in that situation as well. Everything from animal rescue organizations who I chose to help and not getting much acknowledgement or thanks for my donation, to giving people money on the streets and not getting any eye contact, to participating in the hamper program and finding that the family wasn’t even home.
Having to drive our donation back to the Expo centre and never knowing if the family got our gifts or not. I was particularly irritated when the family who was getting our hamper wasn’t there to receive it. In the case of the hamper program, I’m sorry to say but I think that a lot of people are doing it more for themselves than truly for others. (Not saying that this family is in that category but I see it all the time) There’s no reason to post a selfie of your generosity, or endless posts on Facebook about all your donations and charities. Seriously I think some people can’t just quietly give with no strings attached, no expectations of a response. That year that we participated in the hamper program and the family wasn’t there, it dawned on me that part of the problem was me not getting the full experience. There’s something not right about that. If I’m expecting some sort of a response then it’s not really charity, it’s about me. As one poster said over and over in that thread, charity shouldn’t come with strings attached. If people don’t respond with the kind of gratitude I am expecting, so be it. I have made certain choices about where I will put my money and time and have withdrawn my support from some programs for various reasons, but the ones I choose to stay with are going to remain that way regardless of what kind of response I get.
Yeah people are rude, I’m not going to get too bent about it and I don’t feel sorry for the family who didn’t get thanked enough. If they can afford to support 3 other families they are doing ok. Charity is a great concept to teach your kids but a part of that is being charitable of heart and mind and not having any expectations of anything in return.