Response to “4 year relationship inquiring about Open Relationships”
First, let me clear the air with one thing that a lot of you were mentioning – This idea of the Open Relationship isn’t just for me to go out and satisfy my sexual needs. He would also be doing the same.
Yes, I sound completely vain. I know, not meaning too.
I have supported him with all the NUMEROUS of failed attempts at trying to diet. He will try something – and it will last maybe two weeks. Juicing, P90X – cutting some foods out. He doesn’t stick to it. He won’t go the gym because it costs money. I explain to him that he is the type that needs to be physically working out and eating healthy to lose weight, because just changing his diet doesn’t help – it almost makes it worse (water weight) but he does NOT LISTEN. I push him to come out for rollerblade/bike rides with the dog and I. But even getting him up to do things is kind of exhausting some days.
When he is home, (two weeks on/two weeks off), we do have sex. Maybe once, or twice. I have not just stopped putting out. But I just don’t enjoy it like I know I could/should be. I miss orgasms. FYI – he has been the only male to give me one properly. So I know what I am missing out on! We had amazing sex before his weight gain.
I too had also put on some weight, and I wasn’t completely happy – but okay with it – cause normally I am quite petite. But, he made his comments and jokes and poked fun. And guess what? I LOST THE WEIGHT! I get it is easier for some people.
If he was living back home – he would be more active. He lives in the country and is completely outdoorsy. but out here he just goes into this slumber is it driving me nuts. I feel like his mother half the time.
So I know I sound like a cunt for not being attracted to my boyfriend sexually – but I feel like I am doing my part. We are great in every other aspect, except this.