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Stop asking about pregnancy!

Just a reminder – stop asking women you hardy know if they’re planning on having a baby, or if they’re trying to have a baby! It’s inappropriate and awkward, and you’re probably forcing her to lie to you.

A) What you’re actually asking is if she is having lots of sex trying to get pregnant… That’s an awkward question to ask someone you hardly know.

B) How do you know she isn’t in her first trimester, trying to hide it? Or if she’s been trying for a year and still isn’t pregnant? Or if she miscarried last week and is grieving?

Just stop. Please.

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  1. It’s not even a “women you hardly know” thing – it should be a “quit asking, period”. It’s nobody’s business but the couple in question.

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  2. Or maybe they don’t WANT kids! Or CAN’T have kids! And in that case, stop telling them what they’re missing out on, or that they’ll change their mind one day and regret it, or that it’s such a shame they’re putting their good body to waste!

    Because fuck you.

    (No. Really. This is a thing, and it needs to stop. Don’t judge people for the decisions they make. It’s really none of anyone business.)

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    • Amanda Kamps Amanda Kamps says:

      This is absolutely a thing. I don’t want kids. Never have. The “Oh you might change your mind. It’s the best thing I ever did!” crap is unending and annoying. Sorry I don’t want the same menial shit as you.

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    • Best thing I ever did was NOT have kids!!! 100% of people I know with kids tell me that sometimes they wish they had made the same decision at one time or another! This is usually retracted, but everyone has those moments. Don’t tell me what I’m missing out on. I have many kids that I can visit and snuggle and clean diapers and feed at night and do the things the parents do so they can have a rest. I’m happy to help! But just because it was YOUR best decision ever doesn’t mean it’ll be mine. I’m quite happy being able to help – something I wouldn’t be able to offer with kids of my own!!

      (This isn’t at all a pet peeve of mine. Nope. Noooo…. ok, maybe a little… (sarcasm))

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    • Telly Meek Telly Meek says:

      yeah, i dont want kids either and i dont go around telling ppl they are missing out on late nights and sleeping in. i dont ask ppl why they have so many. i dont tell them that they shouldnt have any more. why? because its rude! so why is it okay for them to say those things to me?

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    • I want lots of kids and some of my friends don’t have any and never will. If someone can’t have kids or don’t want to have kids they shouldn’t feel pressured to discuss this.

      I will ask people if they are “interested” in having kids. Because “Are you going to have kids” is a loaded question.

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    • Any not to mention people speaking for you. “Oh you’ll change your mind blah blah blah”….UUUUUH Probably NOT! like….I hate cilantro. I will never like cilantro. It is he worst most vial thing on the planet. Leave it alone.

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    • No no. YOu’re wrong with cilantro. It’ll grow on you.

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    • (KIDDING!!!! 🙂 )

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    • Andrea Joy Andrea Joy says:

      Ugh I totally get this shit!!! I hate when my family (Except my mom) tells me that ok regret not having kids. My spouse and I ate so happy with our lives and neither of us want kids. I don’t think that’s a bad thing nor do I think it grants others the right to, in a sense, put us down

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  3. Amy Melby Amy Melby says:

    Pretty sure he/she is commenting about people they know. In general, it’s no ones business if someone is/or trying to get pregnant anyway.

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  4. Tricia Lyn Tricia Lyn says:

    Maybe a new friend is trying to make conversation or maybe trying to get to know another person. Maybe just maybe someone is in a difficult situation and is trying to find a friend that is going through the same thing and just needs someone to talk too about it.

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    • Reworded properly, it’s a fine conversation. “Are you guys planning on having kids?” THAT is fine. THAT is acceptable. THAT is without judgment or expectation and opens up a proper dialogue. If they need someone to talk to about a similar experience, it’s so much better not to put the issues on someone else first. “Hey, I’m having this issue that I really just need to talk to someone about…. I’m wondering if you’ve experienced the same thing.”

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  5. Jaime Sharon Jaime Sharon says:

    why are people so whiney about everything? just answer the question how you see fit

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  6. So you broads trying to conceive or what?

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  7. It is so annoying! Like a woman’s only place on this earth is to procreate! I had one child and it still didn’t or doesn’t stop…”when’s the next one coming!”

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  8. Whoa some bum hurt bitches on here.

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  9. Not just people you know – people in stores, or customers, or anyone who hears you don’t have kids that feel they need to weigh in on it. Last week a cashier commented on what a great deal I was getting on underpants for my son. XL men’s boxers. Ummm. Dude. I’m in my 30’s. How old do you think I really am that my kid is wearing XL boxers? I corrected her to say they were for the husband, but joked that husbands and kids are a close enough crossover. The conversation was fine, but it’s an easy example at how quickly people assume anything when they don’t know you.

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  10. Not just people you know – people in stores, or customers, or anyone who hears you don’t have kids that feel they need to weigh in on it. Last week a cashier commented on what a great deal I was getting on underpants for my son. XL men’s boxers. Ummm. Dude. I’m in my 30’s. How old do you think I really am that my kid is wearing XL boxers? I corrected her to say they were for the husband, but joked that husbands and kids are a close enough crossover. The conversation was fine, but it’s an easy example at how quickly people assume anything when they don’t know you.

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  11. Tam L Dack Tam L Dack says:

    meh long as sammidges don’t get included in the don’t talk about convo idgaf

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  12. I guess we need to start to asking men why their penis’s are so itty, bitty wee.

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  13. Jeff Howard Jeff Howard says:

    Ok. Don’t ask fat chicks when they’re due.

    Got it.

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  14. That’s why my answer to those kinds of questions is always “velociraptor. I’m expecting a baby velociraptor.”

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  15. Or asking if you’re going to have another baby to try for a girl/boy.. 2 is PLENTY people!!!! And I don’t see anyone else trying to pay for them!

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  16. Amy Melby I didn’t say that it was anyone’s business, I just said it didn’t think this was a common thing.

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  17. Jessy Turner Jessy Turner says:

    How would that possibly come up in a conversation with someone you hardly know? Unless they’re just a perv creeping. Wtf lol.

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  18. You re not out of line to respond with ” that’s a private matter but thanks for your concern”

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  19. Also. People most always stop when you respond with. Why do you ask?

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  20. Or stop saying you need to have one more. Sorry my one and my step child is enough thanks.

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  21. My boyfriend and I get it all the time from people we know as well as strangers. It’s the constant “when are you having babies? Your halfers will be so cute”. This implies that my boyfriend and I are obligated to reproduce together simply because of an esthetic reason. No one ever asks how I would feel about parenting, or how he would feel. No one asks if we are ready to commit our entire lives until we die to a child. They always just want us to create a kid simply because it would be “cute”. That is a HORRIBLE and selfish reason to bring a kid into the world.
    For almost 6 years now I’ve had to deal with that scenario on a regular basis. I’m sure I’m not the only one.

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  22. Lisa Whelan Lisa Whelan says:

    Not everybody cares if people know they are having a lot of sex. Lucky fk’ers! Lol this is a weird post to me.

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  23. Cora Zón Cora Zón says:

    My friends who can’t have kids often are asked by coworkers or their massage therapist or their hairstylist or vice versa. People ask me on a daily basis and it can be touchy….some women aren’t physically able as you know…and it actually makes some women cry to talk about it I’ve seen some REALLY awkward conversation around this topic.

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  24. Cora Zón oh it’s an awkward convo for sure, haven’t denied that. I just didn’t realize it was quite that common among strangers, and they way I read it, it sort of looked that way.

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  25. Don’t talk to pregnant women at all. It confuses the woman, disturbs the baby and shames the husband.

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  26. Kathy Rybock Kathy Rybock says:

    I dealt with infertility after my first child. We tried for five years for another with many heartbreaks, and seriously all I heard at any family gathering was ‘when is the next one?’ I finally blew up and said that we were only having one and that was it and that the next person to ask would never see us again.
    They stopped asking and I found out I was pregnant a couple of months later. After that child was born no one ever asked again lol

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  27. Lots of people don’t want kids, or cant have them, or don’t want them yet (lets be honest kids are demanding and expensive).. asking these questions is rude and pressuring.

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  28. Not all of us want to have kids.

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  29. who the hell says this lol.. wtf

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  30. Randa Gill Randa Gill says:

    Yup. Some people think their beliefs are the only ones that matter. #childfreeandproud

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  31. Harry Kumar Harry Kumar says:

    dont tell me what to say

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