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I just left a long term relationship and have nothing. I was with this person for over 6 years and left due to mental abuse, I made a snap decision and decided to leave him whilst I still had a little will to live left in me.

I took only one bag and my dog with me. I’m with my friend until I get my life on track again… So my hope with this post is to be inspired to keep going and that I made the right choice even though it was hard.

I’m weak today and think if he contacted me I might be tempted back… >_< I KNOW I made the right choice, but how do you get through these times?

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  1. If you’re worried about going back, find something to occupy your time. Take the time you need to regroup, find something to do, and get yourself a new normal. And remember you’re doing the 100% right thing, he doesn’t deserve another brain cell dedicated to thinking of him.

  2. I am so proud of you. Leaving a crappy situation is hard for many reasons. You will be okay and get through this. One day at at time, or one hour at a time if that’s what it takes. Once you’ve had some time to recover you’ll begin to see how horrible being with him was for you. We’re rooting for you. {{{{{Hugs}}}}} You survived all those years of abuse, you are stronger than you know and certainly strong enough to survive learning how to be in a positive space again.

  3. Alice Laine Alice Laine says:

    First of all, be very proud of yourself for walking out of this relationship. Second, believe in yourself and know that you WILL get through this and you WILL find someone that will love you as you are. Be strong and just remember you’re doing the right thing for yourself. Once you realize that you matter, it becomes ‘easier’. Take it day by day. You will be okay. It is going to be very hard and you’ll want to go back every hour of everyday but don’t make that mistake of putting yourself in someones arms who has no respect for you. Also, keep yourself busy doing things you love.

    You are going to be okay.
    You will get through this.
    You are worthy of real love and you will find it but find that in you first.
    I believe in you!!

  4. Alice Laine Alice Laine says:

    First of all, be very proud of yourself for walking out of this relationship. Second, believe in yourself and know that you WILL get through this and you WILL find someone that will love you as you are. Be strong and just remember you’re doing the right thing for yourself. Once you realize that you matter, it becomes ‘easier’. Take it day by day. You will be okay. It is going to be very hard and you’ll want to go back every hour of everyday but don’t make that mistake of putting yourself in someones arms who has no respect for you. You are going to be okay. You will get through this. You

  5. Just remember that you deserve better. Don’t settle for anyone that does not know your worth. Don’t settle for someone who does not respect you.
    You are more

  6. Fern Thomas Fern Thomas says:

    Don’t answer his calls be strong you’re half way there!!!

  7. You lean on good friends who help you stand back up on your feet. You scream you yell you cry you get angry. Then slowly you feel better. You will have bursts of tears and anger thinking of the good times and then the bad. You will kick yourself for staying for so long but eventually you will forgive yourself and realise it helped you grow and taught you very important lessons.

    Then you feel much better and you will love yourself again and you will go on and you wont know how you made it through but you will know how strong you and how much you can stand on your own. You will discover a new stronger better you.

  8. Ironically, stay strong. You were clearly strong enough to leave, and not weak. Keep communication with the friend you’re staying with, your mind set, etc. I’m sure your friend will help you. You’ll be ok, I know you will, my mom and myself were in your shoes many years ago.
    Block his number, block him on Facebook, and any other social media you have with him, if any. Don’t talk to any of his friends or family, as they may let slip what’s going on, etc.
    Big hugs

  9. You got this! Put you first!

  10. Myra Maines Myra Maines says:

    One step in front of the other. Keep going.

  11. Penny Miller Penny Miller says:

    Ask the police to go with you and get your stuff. You need your stuff!!

  12. I have no advice either! But you are a strong person! Hang in there! Things will get better and you will find someone who loves you without abusing you. You have my respect!

  13. If he calls you, I only ask you do this. Think of the first 5 memories you have of the relationship. If there are any bad memories in that 5, try to be strong enough to stay away. You already made the biggest leap by leaving in the first place, don’t ruin it by a single moment of weakness.

  14. Remember why you left. First while will be the hardest as your will power is absolutely diminished. But you got this! Don’t even entertain the idea of returning.

  15. You stay strong by remembering how many times and ways they abused you. It’s the only way.

  16. Go to Mexico with your dog

  17. Good for you. Every time you see yourself in the mirror tell yourself you are worth it. Also leave yourself positive notes about yourself. Find something positive about yourself. It can be as simple as I have nice fingernails. But find a new thing every day and build yourself back up. You can do it. Remember you matter

  18. I have no advice either but I want to say Good for you! Just one foot in front of another, one day at a time. Build things up, I think you’ll feel happier once you have more furniture or even a vase you loved and picked out…It will feel more like your life. And support, I hope you have a lot of that. It is inspiring to see how you took such a huge step into the scary unknown because you deserve better and it hopefully inspires others

  19. Only prayer to Jesus, He will give you strength and show you a better pick for next time. Stay focused on what is important in your life and know that if you have hope then life gets easier. The only hope you have right now is knowing that God’s Son Jesus loves you and wants to help you. God Bless!

  20. What I did is outweighed the pros and cons. Though the pros most definitely outweighed the cons, the cons we SO bad that it just couldn’t compare.
    Remember why you left, how he made you feel and what made you finally get out.
    And that’s just it: YOU. GOT. OUT.
    I’m not going to lie, you’ll want to go back but don’t. Things won’t change, he won’t be nicer and he won’t stop manipulating. This will come through texts, phone calls, messages.
    But, stay strong, lady, you got this and we’re here with ya.

  21. Have you considered looking for a counseler, to help you understand why you stayed in an abusive relationship?
    Call Access 24/7
    780 424 2424
    Maybe go to the library and get a book that might help you reflect during this time. In a couple months/years you will wonder why you ever stayed.
    It will be easier to get over him if you delete any social media ties.

  22. Right now, you are completely out of sorts and you have nothing with you that is yours. Once you have a place, furniture (even just a couple things) things that are yours, you will feel soooo much better and it’s doesn’t take a long time to get sorted, it’s just FEELS like it will. You made the biggest step now all other steps will seem so much easier. It’s easy to say “don’t go back” but your life will be so much happier and healthier. It’s one day at a time. And right now it’s moment to moment. Just think, you left and you made it.

  23. Mandoid Ray Mandoid Ray says:

    One day at a time. If you feel like you need to cry or scream then surrender to that moments. You’re allowed to have weak moments after a break up. You will slowly start to feel more like yourself again as time goes on. It’s not going to happen over night. Make small goals and work at them. Take the time you need.

  24. It’s so easy to put the blinders on and remember only the good times. I had to focus on the bad. All the times I felt my lowest because of him and remember why I left. You can pm me if you’d like!

  25. Ashley Burak Ashley Burak says:

    Remember the bad times. It’s torture, but relive them in your head. You’re clearly a strong person to have actually gathered the strength to leave. Don’t forget why you did. ❤

  26. One day at a time. There’s gonna be hard ones. Focus on you and how you need to build yourself back up from the distruction this person cause to your esteem and confidence. Work through the grief of the loss of the relationship. You are worth more, you may have to put in the work to believe it after what you have gone through. You made the right decision!

  27. Look ahead and YOUR life. Don’t depend on a man. You do you.

  28. Noura Yaghi Noura Yaghi says:

    You’ve got this. Block his phone number. Block his email. Block. Block. Block.
    You can do this. Never look back.

  29. Amber Dawn Amber Dawn says:

    Remind yourself why you left and every broken promises and lie leading up to it. Once you take him off his pedestal and see him without his mask, you don’t forget. Give yourself time and find supports who validate your feelings and experiences.

  30. Always remember why you left! That’s the best advise I can give. I left an abusive relationship twice. I made the mistake of going back.
    Every time a good memory pops up, force a bad memory to remind you that the few good didn’t outweigh the bad.
    As for starting over, if you can take the first step to freeing yourself, you have the power to get up, dust off and go forward. It’s hard at first, but you can so it!!!

  31. Tracy Tracy Tracy Tracy says:

    It sure will get easier! Immerse yourself in work, your friends and family and concentrate on carving out a great life in your future! Blick him on everything so you are not tempted

  32. Right now is the time for you, your healing, your happiness, your recovery. Be selfish, care about yourself first at this time, build a relationship and love for yourself.
    So proud of you for doing the right thing.

  33. Nicola Robak Nicola Robak says:

    get yourself into counseling and break all contact

  34. Keep going girl !! You made the right choice, so stick your guns!! Block him on all social media platforms, change your number, change your job if you have too… whatever you do, don’t talk to him! You gotta keep strong and overcome all the bullshit you probably went through in that relationship!
    If you ever need a person, don’t hesitate to reach out and good luck ❤️

  35. I don’t have any advice. I just wanted to say that I believe in you. You left an abusive relationship and that is a huge feat. Just keep moving forward and don’t look back. I wish you the best in your future. ❤️

  36. Cut all ties and keep moving forward when you think of going back remind yourself WHY you left I wish you self happiness and good luck you got this ❤️❤️

  37. Keep busy and block him. If you have stuff there or need contact, ask someone to contact him for you. Fill your life with things that make you happy. Go to the gym. Take some fun classes. Join Women Who Explore: Edmonton and Area. Change is hard, but you do not need to be with someone who makes you feel alone. You got this.

  38. is there anything you need at the moment?

  39. It will get easier !
    I left a mental and physical abuser in june of last year and im happier then ive ever been in my life .
    If ever ever need to talk im a message away ! .

  40. Jim Sterling Jim Sterling says:

    These kinds of things are always so unfair. Well that’s her side of the story, I wonder what the truth is.

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