In the world that almost all are judgemental 😔
So it was me who shared my sentiments and worries about my step- daughter that was posted earlier. Well, I agree I might not be the best step mom to her. Last summer i was just given birth to my 2nd child when she came, my husband lost almost hAlf of his income due to oil industries situation. So stress was so evident even before she came.
Frankly speaking, yes it was hard to deal with her , one moment she was happy and the rest u imagine! One of you said that i was upset he was giving her more money behind my back! Of course i was upset ! bcoz we work like a dog just to earn money so we can pay all the bills while her mother was sitting there waiting for us to send money so that she can buy her alcohol and drugs!she was not even working she just relied on the child support. She didnt use the money that was intended for her child! We ask her several times that her child has to stay with us but she refused.You guys said i was hard on her a wicked step-mom, maybe ur right! But do u even know the real story? I brought her shopping (everything) but she was complaining that i am suggesting the on sale or clearance stuff where i myself who has a job opted to shop at value village but i didnt say that to her.I bought her an iphone bcoz she was playing pokemon and complaining that it was so embarassing to take her ipad while catching pokemon and i even went with her pretending that i liked that game just to please her.
Hook her up with my friends kids her age so she wont feel lonely but she will just sit on the corner.Yes she didnt care helping out she will just pass by going to the washroom ignoring her 2 siblings crying while I was busy cooking for our supper. I didnt ask her to do the chores, all i want is a little help when i was cooking supper before her dad comes home. I asked her nicely but what i got was a cold shoulder and slamming of the door and when she hears her dad is coming she will come out from her room pretending to be playing with her siblings. If you say we’re complete strangers to her, i dont think so bcoz she’s with us every summer and christmas.
I encouraged her everyday all day to get out her room but she was on her ipad the whole time. Everytime i called her if she wants to watch movies with us on tv or go with us to tue park she said no.The main reason why she was here for summer was for a vacation but her dad insisted that she has to stay with us. She asked her dad that if shes going to stay with us will dad still b sending money to her mom and he said no bcoz she’s with us now. That was the time she changed her mind. When she asked to go to her aunt my SO already knew that she planned everything that she will be ended up going home to her mom And he was right! but he was so tired dealing with all the stress so he gave up.
You guys said that i dont care for her? U have no idea! Be on my shoe before you judge me! I knew by the time i typed that first post that ill get negative comments but i was only asking what to do since emailing and calling newfoundland wasnt a success. We know where she is, her other aunt texted my SO but he was hurt and i have been urging him to send money before it’s too late yet according to him if he can’t do anything about it he will just leave it.
Anyways, thank you for all of your comments… I will b intouched with the maintenance enforcement tomorrow even if it’s against my SO’s will.